I WANT TO GET OVER MY REGRETS

i just got devroced with a woman i beleived was the other half of me, i met her here in china 10 years ago, we dated, got married and have kids( two) but when i moved to her home town 5 years ago, things changed for the worse, she submitted totally to her parents, her parents controlled almost every aspect of our married life except when having sex, i beleive they would have controlled that if they could, because they once mentioned in a dinner table when we were going to have a third child, anyway, i have deep love for this girl, beleive it or not i have never for once cheated on her, it's hard to belive this, but it's true, it pains me to know that i lost alot of opportuniites in relation to cutting outside which i beleive would have made me even after the devroce but know i am filled with regrets that those thing i didn't do while i was married to her, i never dated a girl even though i was approached by many.because of her i was called names by friends and some even warned me of a time like this, so with all these despite that i still love her a bit but i hate her at the same time, i just want to get over this feeling and move on, how can i do that.. this feeling makes me despise woman and don't like to hear the word 'love'

It sounds like you are hurt and angry. You do need to go through this anger and grieving stage.


There is no quick solution to hurt. Time IS a great healer. It may seem to you that this is too big to get over, but remember the clock never stops ticking and one day you will be over this.

It may take a year or more. But one day you will get past this.