stay or leave

I am ready to make the decision but still want to hear some opinions from you.


My bf and me are happy together.But I always feel like he is not the one I want.Here is his opinion about s*x:S*x for men is nothing,they can have s*x with other women easily then go home and still love their wives or girlfriends.


He is staying with me most of the time when I am here(Because of my job,1/3 of the time I am outside).But I think he meets the other women when I fly away,and I truly believe he slept with someone else since he is attractive and always hor*y.He has sms from girls from time to time.But he said those women are friends which for going out to have fun since he just has few male friends.I am the one very important and if I want he can marry me the next day...


But I just feel something is there,I didnt find out and do NOT want to find out because that will hurt me deeply.And I absolutely will NOT accept him to say:that's just s*x,I love you!


I know I want to leave him,but I like him very much and still wonder if it's possible to change myself or him a little bit...


Now I want to hear you guys opinions since he is a xpat,thanks in advance!

Hi,

I am not telling you what to decide,but I will give you some info then you can judge by yourself.


It is about me and my x-bf,I am a Chinese and he is an xpat,he just arrived in China and met me,so I did a great job to help him settle down,get to know the people and get used to the culture and so on.


Then we fell in love with each other,in the beginning it was ok,but when he settled down and start to know the place well,he began to show another of him,I was totally pissed off when I found out that he was cheating on me,and "the other woman" is about 42 year old,even 7years older than him,and he told me it was so curious to him cuz he has never been flattered by such a midage woman whose daughter is only 4 yrs younger than his own gf(he meant me),it was the first time so I accepted that unacceptable explanation,and that is exactly how the hell started.I never intend to find out this woman but it just came across my way,I could not pretend not seeing it.


After that 42 yrs old mother,a college student who is 19 yrs old and also his student,she called his home and I answered it and also many students saw me with him,I think she heard about that so she called to ask why,so we had a talk and I told her that she can still follow him if she wanted so,after her is another student he got in part time school,only 16 yrs old,quite navie girl,then is a divorced woman who just wanna marry him,of course she lost in his game cuz she never believed there was someone else and she wasn't the only one.Then he moved to Beijing to learn Chinese so he also got a Chinses student in the same university and also a Beijing woman who divroced with a American.


We had been together for 4 yrs,I did all my best to change him cuz I always believed if I do better,he won't cheat on me anymore which I WAS SO SO SO WRONG,in fact he does love me as he and all his friends said that they have never seen a Chinese like me,but finally I decided to break up cuz of a woman,they are in more than 2 yrs and I couldn't do anything to break them and especially when she told me she divorced,I just decided not to carry on anymore,otherwise we three will have a long way to go and I won't be the one who is happy,so I quit.


I think some men,they only feel they are men when they have many women.


Think straight,fyi:what goes around,comes around.


God bless you

the only one thing I can say here is "He don't love you." How he can have sex with other woman he don't love. Of course he love that woman when they are together. If me, I think i will tell him, we better separate.

well, but I know an expat guy he told me that why don't have sex first before loving each other. Can relationship build up after sex before love?

my spanish friend told me that he can have sex with different woman when he find that moment is feeling good and the woman is so attractive to him at that time.

never ....once a cheater always a cheater.step away and go girl take care

Thank you, cym.

"Once a cheater always a cheater is true sometimes but not always",some men may change after certain things happened,it may take 2 weeks and he suddenly decides to be a nice man or it may take 20yrs,it all depends on your heart,if you think it is worth of doing so,just go ahead,cuz it is not sth the others can tell,you must feel by your own heart.

I believe man can really love a person and sleep with another person,in fact some female do it as well,so I feel it mightbe part of the DNA and some people are well developed with that part.

Thanks to you all,especially you Lauren Order,lol...

Hi,

I believe it will drive him crazy but what if he takes it as an excuse to fight with you?how do u explain then?Just say you buy those things just make his jealous?And he may do it in real to pay back to you. If it is going like this,you tow just hurt each other more and more.