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HG
18 yrs ago
Though quite knowing the answer, reading opinions from others may give another perspective...
Knew this guy via the Internet... he would SMS me practically everyday which lasted some 3 weeks... we have never spoken over the phone though I did mention somehow... Last weekend, he asked me out & I agreed... I must say I had a good time. Even though he was not what I would have expected (quite a 'rough' person), I enjoyed his company, we laughed a lot while watching a comedy movie & during dinner together. Before I got off his car at my place, he asked I SMS him when I reached home... I did, thanked him & told it was a great night out... His reply said there was no need for thanks & I can give him a treat back the next time... 3 days passed, no SMS from him since...
Hence, it largely means he is NOT interested?
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3 days-not easy to tell. Why dont you text him and ask? Sometimes it pays to be upfront as it saves you a lot of trouble.
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ever heard of calling him ? i mean, he took you out, bought you dinner, drove you home, PERHAPS he is waiting to see if YOU are interested in HIM !!!! if you like him, call him. It works both ways you know
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"His reply said there was no need for thanks & I can give him a treat back the next time."
Uh, honey...he's asking YOU to ask HIM out next time. It's your turn to invite him somewhere.
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Arev
18 yrs ago
Thanks, guys & gals, for your views, opinions, advice...
I summoned the courage to send him a message this morning and he replied almost instantly...
In my message, I wished him a good day & lunch... He said thanks, explained he was working the past 3 days and tired & asked me to enjoy my lunch too...
Hmmm... really don't know where this is going, just hopefully he didn't reply out of politeness or courtesy... You think???
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HG
18 yrs ago
Hey all, read all your postings and appreciate every one... Just to clarify... happen to use the 2 handles but certainly no intention to "play games" here...
Anyway, every 1 is entitled to his / her opinions... I take each with an "open" heart... :)
In reply to helenahk's question, I offered to pay my share for the dinner but he declined, saying the next time I pick up the tab... Well, not exactly very interested to guess what's going on... if it comes, it comes... else guess I will forget the matter...
By the way, he does seem to have speech problem... not that he can't talk but not smooth... oh, how can I put it? Anyway...
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HG
18 yrs ago
Hey walkup, had a laugh at your posting... "... he is married to boot..."...
Yap, yap... it's against the rules and what nots, decided that it's just a passing game...
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HG
18 yrs ago
Hope Ed will not ban this... not exactly seeking opinions but 'venting' frustrations here...
After a few days of no message, told myself he's just a passing cloud... though I did wish there's something more...
Just this morning, he sent a SMS... never replied though... don't wish to play any games... What a player he is... go missing and then back... What he takes people for???
Why is it so hard to find someone true???
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Keep trying! You have to kiss a few frogs to find your prince!
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I'm going to go against the tide here.
HG, I think you've messed up.
When he dropped you off, he asked you to treat him next time, that means it's your turn to ask him out on a date. And all you did was text him, once! Luckily, the boy was keen enough to follow up on a whole lot of nothing from you and text you again!
It's 2007, and correct me if I'm wrong but I'm guessing your not a mind reader so why second guess his actions and tell yourself he's a bad guy before you know much about him, why don't you just ASK HIM OUT! Not just vaguely text him in the hope that he gets the message (when he's clearly previously told you it's your turn!) but ask the boy out.
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HG
18 yrs ago
Hi KitFaerie,
I sent you a PM... Hope you have received it...
Just a few days ago, this guy sent me a SMS, saying he miss me...
How can I believe him when he didn't even ask me for a second date? Or is he waiting for me to make the move? I told him actions speak louder than words...
I do like him... What should I do???
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YAY!!!!
So you replied to his SMS with actions speak louder than words? Lol, that's a very clever thing to say, has he replied?
Sent you a PM
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I have always subscribed to the belief "You want me, come get me". But maybe that's why I'm still single. LOL. I have spoken to a couple of guys about this, and with the exception of one (someone which I think has a problem with self-esteem), all agreed that they wouldn't like to be chased. If they liked someone, they would do the "Chasing".
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HG
18 yrs ago
He insisted he misses me and also asked if I had not... Though I do, I refused an answer to him, merely saying we needed to know each other better... He agreed...
ZenithFlower's reply sets me to wonder is it because I was the one who "approached" him over the Internet and as what many still feel... guys don't quite cherish gals who initiate the getting-to-know each other, that's why he is not taking much action to-date??? Sigh!!!
But then again, isn't that unfair??? Does it mean gals have to sit & wait to be "chosen"???
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HG, I think its ok to approach a guy over the internet first. So in a way, we gals don't need to sit around to be "chosen". You have already indicated your interest by choosing him. After the first meeting, I always tend to lay low (of course I will indicate my interest by saying I had fun) and 99% of the time, they will initiate a 2nd, 3rd or 4th meeting, etc..... I do not feel comfortable intiating a meeting in an early stage. Its different when I am a relationship though, as I would also make the effort to plan and ask him along.
Maybe its just my experience that the 1 or 2 that I have made the first move on backfired. LOL! But I guess to each its own.
By the way, did he ask you out again when he asked if you missed him?
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