Why cant I fall in love?

I'm a gal in my early 20s, single at the moment, have some dates b4, do have some guys chased me b4, but i've never been in love, why i cant fall in love? Please kindly advise...

Um... may be haven't met the right guy? Relax, you're only in your early 20s.


But I kind of know how you feel. I'm in my early twenties too and have been in love once and had my heart broken. I've had two long term relationships since I while I was very fond of the fellas, I couldn't make that final flip into 'love'. And despite the heartache of my previous experience I would really like to be in love again. Guess will just have to wait...

snuffles,


Thanks for the reply.


actually, I'm just wondering why i cant fall in love and yup, i'm not in a hurry to find my love, but many a time, I saw stereotype couples from movies and selective perception of happy couples on streets or among my friends.Sometimes its peer pressure, sometimes its ego, or self-esteem, prompting me to think if I am not attached, there must be something wrong with me.


Then I get attached for the wrong reasons, I realize that it didn't actually matter who he was, as long as I was going steady. Did I ever ask myself if I was really happy? Did I ask myself if he respected me and supported my goals? Did I ask myself if he was everything I was looking for in a boyfriend/relationship? Of course not. I just wanted to be part of a couple. I was less concerned with who I was with, than the fact that I was with someone.


Guys would indicate that they liked me, would chase after me a bit, and I'd get into a relationship with him. Naturally, these relationships never worked. How could they?? My goal was the acquisition of a man, not the creation of a really good relationship...


So, I gave up the game of "Finding love in an unloving world", and begining to meet guys one by one in these few months, I've got so many dates, have sex with them whenever i want...but sometimes, it's kinda empty. I really want to love someone, but i cant.......