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tpol
15 yrs ago
try and try again. Be persistent
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try another girl of course lah
that one in this shop clearly is only nice to sell something!
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You should go to the store everyday while she is there, and just stand in a corner nearby her and stare at her in absolute silence for a few hours. She's eventually bound to be bowled over by your devotion to her and fall head over heels for you. Maybe wear a trashbag to show her your humorous/quirky side.
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Ed
15 yrs ago
Alas... there is a SOLUTION!
http://hongkong.asiaxpat.com/personals/
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Well, sometimes persistence does pay off.
If you REALLY liked this girl, don't scare her by standing in the shop and staring at her... maybe you can pop by briefly everyday, buy her flowers sometimes... things like that. Of course, try to watch the signs in case she's definately not interested.
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You could always pop in with a camera.
Take loads of photos of her from all funky angles.
Take them home and pin them on the wall of your room.
If she still isn't interested you could still see her everyday.
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You could try stalking her, as has been suggested. But she just isn't interested.
She was being nice to get the sale. It is called building rapport. She probably does no appreciate bieng 'hit on'.
The OP sounds insecure. This is never attractive.
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Or maybe she's just not that into you?
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tpol
15 yrs ago
BUt maybe she's playing hard to get?
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Go to the shop and see if she is very very nice to everyone as she has been to you (if yes then she is just doing her work).remember she is a salegirl and her work requires her to be nice to all the customers.You may let her know your attraction to her but you should back off if she really dont like you.. or may be she already have boyfriend.
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dont be sad, plenty of fish in the sea. She was being nice to you coz she wanted you to buy something from the store. Part of her job description "be nice to customers".
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Agree with most poster...lots of pretty sales girls are doing just that, bt that doesnt mean she has interest in you. I encounter plenty, that's how i got tricked into buying stuffs! haha...dun b sad man...its the norm here. Don't give up though, maybe one day u will get one that will go out with you from another shop?
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Maybe you are too sensitive ! That's ALL !
Or you think yourself is Valentino ! Go to get a mirror !
hahaha
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i can understand you are sad,but if she is not interested,then you should quit it,dont go to her shop again and again as this may create unpleasant situation for her..remember nobody wants unsolicited attention.And she is there trying to earn her living..not to find a lover.
i wish you better luck next time in finding love.
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FKKC
15 yrs ago
Since this is eating you up, go to her for the last and final time and tell her you like her and can you have a date with her and if not, you will not ask again. Back away and say 'good-bye' if she says 'no' and if 'yes' - good luck!
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you only meet her once and ask her out right away the second time, of course she is not going out w/u, how would she know you are not somebody who is a rapist, a serial killer.. :) (just joking), personally I think you are coming too strong..
why not ask for her phone number/e-mail address, communicate for a while first before asking her out if you still feel like it..
as for you feeling sad, i don't get it, feeling a bit down when being rejected is fine but feeling sad??? no need la...
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It's simple really -
you went to the shop and bought something and this girl was nice to you.
why not offer her money to go out with you?
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Just ask her if she's interested in being friends. She could be more receptive that way.
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maxis
15 yrs ago
don't haunt her in her work place, it is weird.
perhaps get a pizza just before she takes her lunch break, walk in and say:
"I think I left something here when I was here the other day"
she says "what is it"
you say "my heart, but now I have found it - oh is it that time already? Oops I accidentally got a large pizza.This must be destiny - let's go so you can learn to enjoy my company".
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maxis
15 yrs ago
Or just be honest and tell her she's hot,
and you are infatuated right now,
but with time it will mature into a deep admiration and respect for the future,
and you will carry her handbag if she likes
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I accidentally got a Large Pizza ???
"I think I know what you left in here the other day stranger ... half of your brain and what's left of your dignity"
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AKKY
15 yrs ago
Oh my god! if that's how men thinks.....I will not be so nice to my male customers from now on!!!! My god! suggestions on stalking and taking pictures are frecky and only weirdo/nutcase do that.
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maxis
15 yrs ago
no no, we all dont stalk and take pictures. Don't be discrete and sneaky, just act like a man and don't give up.
Perhaps you should go back to the shop with your sister, or your mother or both, and get their opinion if the girl likes you or not, and if your family will want her to enter your family.
Or take along some of your friends to the shop to check her out and tell you if she is worth the trouble.
Q: Would have you bought the item if she wasn't the sales girl?
If yes, then go and buy another one - and tell her it is for your sister, and she will realise you are a kind, generous. sensitive and family oriented. Unless, of course, it was an electric moustache trimmer or other items which are gender specific.
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This whole thread
Very sad
If the OP is genuine, and not trolling, there is some very adolescent behaviour towards the opposite sex.
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At least you tried.
Many wouldn't.
You went with your heart and now you've found out your heart isn't infallible.
Such is life.
Stay with it. I don't mean with the same lady, I mean following your instincts.
They are also not infallible but they are your own and being honest with yourself is the only way forward in life.
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I don't know about him misreading the signals... some cute girls are flirtatious like that. I have a drop dead gorgeous neice who unfortunately for the men she meets wraps them all around her little finger. It's a bit of a game with her I'm afraid... part of the problem with being born gorgeous I guess...
Oh... give it one more shot... she might be the type who won't go out unless the guy asks repeatedly... yes, insane, but there are people like this...
You could be really hammy without a pizza... bring a small bunch of flowers. Present them boldly, apologise for taking liberties before... start talking... don't ask her out again though... but keep talking... find out a little bit more about her. Keep going back to the shop learning a little bit more... finally ask her out again if you can last the distance...
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ELM, I agree with Flashback, tpol and Maxis. You didn't read the signals wrong, she is just playing hard to get and won't buckle with the first request for a date.
Get back in there, pizza and camera in hand, with a few friends as well to pose in the pictures with her (doing those funny v-sign things), buy something else (to show her you a man of means) and be a man.
And don't forget to carry her handbag. She'll love you when she realises what a hot catch you are.
All the female posters here are just trying to put you off.
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Don't go to the shop,thats her work place/office.If you keep haunting that place,you will force her to quit her job.
Another thing,you said she is preety and cute..but are you attractive too?
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Firstly, she tried to sell you something, so she was nice to you.
Maybe she doesn't mind something more than just selling goods, But the way you approach her didn't make her feel comfortable enough to say YES.
Suggest you buy something from her shop next time, and take a chance to ask her phone No. then SMS her later, or call her if she allow, ( if she refuse to give her No. then you leave your No. to her ) take it easy from there...
You will have a better idea what she is thinking...
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Just get her fone number or move on.
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Many attractive women love to twist men around their little finger. The thrill of watching a man become spellbound like a moth to a flame. If you fall for it, it will only serve as afternoon teatime gossip and ego trip story. Once in a blue moon, she might actually be kindof attracted to the guy.
Just hand her your business card (makesure you have email address as well). If she doesnt write or call or sms you....you get the message- You are a 'moth' to her.
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Seriously, I didn't read any of the other stuff on here...but if a salesperson is being nice to you its because its her job. Please, oh, please, sweet mary, please, do not read anything into it.
Hypothetical: (if that is how you spell it) You go to a strip club in some dodgy corner of backwoods Arkansas, there is a lovely down to earth stripper named Candy there. She is sweet, she smiles at you, she sits beside you (fully clothed) and she asks you about your day and how you came to be in this godforsaken bar in the first place...and then you ask her "What is a nice girl like you doing in a place like this?" and she tells you all about her grandma who is sick, lung cancer, and she isn't even a smoker! So wrong! And then she tells you about her three legged dog named Skip...and her landlady who won the lottery last month....
Ok, *slap* back to reality buddy!
She's just doing her job! She's not into you. She is just a nice, down to earth lass, and picking up chicks at a store is about as weird as picking up chicks at the gym...ewwww....
I know....bible studies and the library is all thats left these days, lol.
Nothing worse than being trapped working at a store and having some guy come back there thinking you fancy them like some frikken stalker...and all you have is that dagnamm job! You can't even run from there!
My suggestion? If the girl said NO, she likely means NO...don't wait to fall flat on your face by asking her again. Try to find someone the regular way, but actually putting yourself out in the dating pool to folks that are actually available and are not paid to be nice.
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