6 months of sexual exposure

a true story and a mess that was created by my friend.


She was like any tradition lady, chaste and tried to keep her virginity till marriage untill @ 28 she received pressure around her. People around her are all getting married and she wants to be a mother too before she turns 30, believing that healthy & beautiful kids rate higher when a woman is younger. She starts to take time to date guys, from internet, clubs, ex-school mate but was dumped always when she refused to try sex before marriage. @28 she lost her virgin to an australian who flew into singapore especially just for her and stayed for a month, he has never been anywhere else outside australia. Touch and out of sympathy, hoping that he would marry her, she surrender her stubborn believe before this guy return to australia end of June. She couldn't figure out why the "sex" process did not turn out to be what described in romance novel, in fact she felt nothing but b'cos of what she'd read, not wanting to hurt the man ego, she acted she enjoyed the process. He didn't marry her giving excuse that he likes her but felt sad that things didn't work out right as he does not believe in marriage.

Puzzle about if the books she read can be fiction, she thought maybe it was the looks of the australian that let her felt nothing, she tried again in july with a better looking guy. Still felt nothing. She almost give up finding out if she is sexually abnormal, when a french guy that pronouced how much he is attracted to her, ensure that he can made the experience different in August. well, she had to act she enjoyed it again. Since then, men started to come in every month in different way to declare their feeling and giving the assurance that they can leave lustous impression. Finally in December, when she least expect, a highly good looking expatriate whom she met for few times that shown his interest to in her, got her pregnant when she stayed over his place a night due to her room taken over by her roommate's parent. She knew it was a mistake and had told the guy so but did not tell him of her "felt nothing" experience every once a month. Baby was born beautiful and healthy, she give up her career being a single mum, draining away her saving. Now, my friend does not believe in any man, she felt they are all using her and she has since refused to sex again as since she never feel "horny" and don't see why she should satisfy the men's desire. She claimed she felt thankful that her karma for betraying her body without marriage is a baby and not aids, but I felt lonely for her. what can I do to help her believe in love again?

You both sound very naive. Sex and love are different things. Sometimes you can have both...in fact often you can. Romantic sex is rare for the first time anyway as it takes time to learn about your body, what works for you and what you like. It sounds like she has been very unfortunate in love/ life. I think her innocence has made her vulnerable to the wrong kind of guys..or maybe she had such a romantic ideal that she confused sex with love (from the men) I get the distinct feeling she feels love will be at first sight...head over heels...it takes time to develop something meaningful. It can't be hurried. She needs to not be looking for a life partner but someone to enjoy life with and see where it goes from there.

it is very normal for women "feels nothing" and pretends to enjoy when she starts to have sex. it can take a long time for a woman to enjoy sex - it really has nothing to do with trust in a man. It is a matter of getting emotionally and sexually mature. Yea, time will tell and heal.

Can you please write something credible and understandable. I just can't understand your supposedly English or basically anything else. I gather what you are saying is that your 'friend' is strange? Well i do agree.

I feel that she needs to believe that love still exist and rid her loneliness

and maybe she can find a man who love her enough to take care of her well being too

Justin, did I say that she said she is lonely? I said I felt lonely for her. She is still attractive, and I see she survive well financially without man/men. but I just hate her negative attitude when we talk about men. I want prove her that the right guy will fill her life with love and happiness. She keeps telling me it will not happen and she has only seen these 1 in every million couple.

from ur story, u slept with a new expatriate every other month and all of them just shag and run.


statistically speaking, u may find other type of man more suit u.

You friend has been reading too many love stories.... Too late! Maybe she's a bit depressed now and being stuck at home with a baby can be stressful. As her friend, you can spend more time and help her babysit. She will get over it soon, don't worry.

"she should put an ad in the "mail order brides" catalogue and marry some random old guy in some other country..."


Hey, at 52 I'm possibly a random old guy and I don't want her.

to thormaturge


Do u have a full length mirror @ home? if not, get one asap.

Ur Friend has no power when coming to handle her relationship with guys...for the sake of her babe, since she has decided to rise her babe alone, now, it's time to rebuild her self-esteem, self-confidence and self-assurance...get her ars out of room and find a proper job to build up her career...be responsible for herself and her kid...jump out of men's circle...why have to belive in love again?...firstly she should believe in herself...she can lead a beatiful life though without the love from men, if she get her confidence back, she will gain the respect from others/men...maybe someone is waiting for her just somewhere nearby her!!!

To, MangoDurianRambutanOrange


I assume ' thormaturge' couldn't have a mirror in his shelter, once he looked into a mirror, the mirror cracked into millions of pieces...