Relationship to keep or not

My husaband, was very polite, loving and good with me, when i married than after a month his parents left a job and came to live with us. After them, his behaviour with me got totally changed... His parents treat me like a servent... I don't mind about that and than also give them respect..but i got depressed when my husaband not take care of me...Even if i was preganent he was not coming with me at doctor's appointment or any where and due to depression and work load i miscaariage.ya after that he was taking care of me for few days but than again as it is. He also hide manythings with me... we also plan to buy house he and his family decided house everything and then they let me know that we are buying this house... and then after i talked to him that why you doing such to me than he replied i am man if i want to tell you i will or not.I got so depressed when i heard something superised about him form my motherinlaw or sisterinlaw. Also i am working and he took all my salary...(withdraw from my account)and he also has his separate account. i told him that this is not fair, he said if you want let me know i will give you...And if i tell him i want to buy this or that he said tell to his mother she will buy for me.. even for my sanitory napkins i have to ask her....

Help me to come out of this situation. I am tired with my this life.... I never think that marriage life is like this...

I think the first thing you should do is open a new bank account and don't give your husband the password. Have your salary transferred there. That way you have some 'running away' money and something to pay divorce lawyers with. Do you have any close female friends you can stay with?


Abuse comes in many forms and hitting is just one. He and his family are subjecting your to emotional abuse and to an extent physical abuse (making you miscarry). Get out. You have your own job and don't have a child yet to tie you to him.

I think JC's advice was really good.


A lot of this could be cultural differences. I never expected my husband to go to doctor's appointments when pregnant, becasue he was so busy, so it is all very much personal.


But it would be nice if you can set up a new bank acct to put your salary in, OR change your paswords, although you need to decide if it will cause more trouble than it is worth. To me as a westerner I think it is unfair that you need to ask for money for sanitary napkins, but every culture is different and at the end of the day as long as they give them to you it might be OK over time.

sweety, find the strength within you to live life on YOUR OWN terms. There's no point existing and surviving in this world hoping that your life looked differently; it's up to YOU to make that happen! Figure out what it is you really want, discover the result that you want to create in your life - which is really not continuiing to be in this relationship if it doesn't change- and go create it. If you do still want things to work out, have a discussion with the husband and in-laws to make that happen. If you have had enough then step up and get out of it!!!