how to avoid a 2nd divorce?

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i think that nifty's response is quite insightful; however, it may help, as raincatcher said, to have more details? did you have a great big fight, or was it a series of escalating events? for how long?

best way to avoid 2nd divorce, don't get married a 2nd time

From your description of your relationship, it does not sound like you had an affair, but your issue maybe coming from other things.


Obviously she had enough of you and decided to leave you. I don't know how long your second marriage was, but she obviously feels like she was unable to communicate her thoughts, opionions, and feeling to you. I am sure over the years she did tell you why she was happy, but not enough efforts or changes were made. I think women choose to leave their husband when they feel helpless...meaning there is nothing they can do to change the relationship.


I don't know whether you clearly understand even now why she is leaving you. My advice to you is that first of all clearly understand why she is leaving you. If she needs the time off from you, then give her that time away. But start to work on building back her trust that you are in fact trying and you care for the family more than anything. But don't push her too hard and expect her to be back to normal because she probably would not believe you right away. Like you lost her trust over time, the trust will only return with time.


Really, good luck and try to see things from her perspective. Try to see what is her side of the story rather than what you see. Love is not about how you love or feel about your wife, but it is more to do with her happiness. I think sometimes men tend to love women in a very selfish way. Try to recognize her as a persoon who is hurt and very vulnerable.


My theory in life is that if something happened to you more than once(once could be an accident or mistake), then it certainly could happen again. you have to recognize that the problem is something to do with you or inner you that you are not quite aware of.


Really, I wish the best of luck to you

It's better you give more info about your relationship...maybe she financially needs more than you give her as you said she thinks that things will fly to her easily...You need to communicate with her and see together what can be done ..if not why not letting it go...