Posted by
Wasabigirl
16 yrs ago
I have just ended a 5 year relationship and it seems that suddenly there has been a surge of "new/old" guys who have arisen.
One guy is in fact a university classmate who I have known for around 8 years now. He did chase me back in the day and in fact he proposed to me after a month relationship then. After we broke up (on good terms) back then, I remembered that I said something along the lines of "If I am single and haven't got a partner by the time I'm 29 and you are still around loving me 10 years later, I will marry you!". Recently, met up with this classmate and he knows that I have now broken up with my bf. Of course, he said that I should have broken up with him ages ago etc.. He then told me that I was right to dump him back then as he was young, stupid and had no goal in life. In fact he did not complete his studies back then because he played his time away back then. Now he is working as Asia District manager of a large company. He told me that he worked hard to get to this position because he wanted me one day to look at him and choose him. I know sounds bit dramatic but I believe parts of it to an extent. I guess I would give it a go, but he has a gf currently. Although he told me he does not love her, and she is not in HK either... I'm not sure if I should go ahead with it or not......... I know some people will say wait a bit, but I just worry that if I wait...I may miss the boat??? Any advice?
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8 years is not a short time. If I were you, I will dig out if the present "he" is the one which you know and familiar with. People will change as time passes by. Also, ask yourself, have you changed during these 8 years?
It's about a serious relationship. All you have to find is a "boat" that you are cozy with, but not the one which you can catch "in time".
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haha proposed to you after one month of dating.. he sounds a little bit insane to me. There's no harm in seeing how things go though. After just coming out of your relationship, it's good to test the waters and go out and see more people.
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Yes, the reason I did not say yes to the proposal was because it was way too quick and I was way too young back then. Perhaps I should give it a try....not sure...
A cozy boat...I would have been cozy with my ex I could say...dam....
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Thankyou for your advice My Hong Kong!
I am not Ms World ilwiltry, I just want to move on from the past. I know its not been long and thats why I am posting a thread here.
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I ask the same question that 'iwilltry' had asked. 2 guys in two weeks, so which one do you really want?
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For Mariah anna and iwilltry, the other post is not closed. I have seperated from my bf who I was with for 5 years. The SWAT guy problem has also ended. I would like you answer the question on this thread only as this is the problem I have NOW! I did not expect you to read the other threads, and whether it was 2 weeks ago or 2 years ago is not an issue in this question. I understand that you may think it is too quick to make a new move. It just so happened that my classmate whom I have known for 8 years now gave me a call and we met up and I told him that I have broken up with my bf and even the other guy who borrowed money from me. Then he talked about getting together again after all those years etc...I didn't just meet my classmate. You have misunderstood the situation!
I would be grateful if you could answer the question I set on this particular thread.
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Thankyou for your advice iwilitry! In response...
Even I question why he would wait around for me after all those years, I wouldn't say that he is waiting for me and its very normal that he had other relationships since then. I think a lot of guys hang on to someone as its in their comfort zone to do so, why not have a girl to clean, cook and sleep with. But does it mean he loves her or wants to spend his life with is another question. Can he be loyal to me, well I can only say I would hope so, but who can guarantee that with anyone?
I was in a cozy boat with my bf, but if you had read my comments on the earlier thread you would have known that he was lovely to me till he was drunk. I broke up to change that!
Do I actually love my ex classmate...I would probably answer NO for now. Especially coming out of a relationship and being hurt, yes, maybe I need time being single. But if you ask me if I was moved by his words and the very fact that he worked dam hard because of me etc...Yes, I was touched...didn't think he would give a dam since I rejected his proposal..thought most people would feel that way. Am I only choosing him cos of his job position, well no...as he would say, he only got where he is today because he wanted to better himself. I don't see his job as the reason to why I want to be with him. I see the eight years or waiting, a rejected wedding proposal as being far more attractive.
His gf is probably the biggest problem. I don't want to be the thrid person and I certainly don't want to hurt anyone here. So I guess, I will wait and see... the thing is I know he wants me to make the first move or say that I want to be with him etc before he will do anything with his gf...so if I don't say anything then I will just have to forget it!
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bing2
16 yrs ago
women hahaha we guys thought women have everything figured out, but in reality women have got no clue at all. worse than men hahaha.......
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sicn
16 yrs ago
Just because those guys "love" you, it doesn't mean they are good for you. Some gals only know how to TAKE offers. That is big handicap in finding love and building a strong relationship. Maybe you shall wait and find that person to whom you want to GIVE your offer.
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the story is such a drama......
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Both are not your choice. Your ex-classmate just want to gain you. Once you as a GF or Wife living with him, I think your romantic and quiet life will end soon. This thing is the best once you can not get it. So the relationship...
Just try to find what you want, is he a good guy or suit for you? From the very small action, things you can find. Forget them is your best choise.
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I know it can seem dramatic...so actually I have decided to forget this classmate!
I am officially single now!
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I think he is no good....i understand your feelings!
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I have given this thought up! I hope I can find someone better for me!
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