On the ROCKS

ok, i am VERY conservative about drugs, it's a big NO for me.


having said that, i know pot is very much a recreational drug in some countries, think some would probably not want to call it a drug. so if you and your hubby had a little fun with it before, so be it but with a kid now, ask your hubby:


1) how would he like it if his kid smoked pot next time and can only get to sleep if he had a joint or

2) how would he like it if his kid can only ace/relax at an interview after he has a joint.


how sad is that? would he like that?


it sounds to me that your hubby needs help....he's not living for himself anymore and should set an example for his kid. i think it is great that YOU have done the responsible thing for your child and quit.


best of luck! it's just my view.

i would take a harder stance against drug, an outright NO but JC's advice is useful too, if you want to take a softer approach that might work on your husband.

"fine! i'll have a sh*tty interview tomorrow."


So if he doesn't the job (for whatever reason), it will be YOUR fault. LOL


Sorry, but that is fairly typical for a drug addict - it's not his fault, it's not the drug's fault, it's your - or someone else's - fault.


Be it alcohol, pot, cocaine, or whatever, he now requires it just to get through the day/function normally. He is an addict. I understand you are trying to be loyal but you are actually supporting his habit - you are what is called an "enabler".


The effects of marijuana on a pre-schooler includes performing tasks involving sustained attention and memory more poorly than other children. Later your child is more likely to show deficits in problem-solving skills, memory, and the ability to remain attentive. Doesn't that sound like a child set for a life on Ritalin?


There are several studies which have associated workers' marijuana smoking with increased absences, tardiness, accidents, workers' compensation claims, and job turnover. So your husband may have difficulties holding down a job. And he may have difficulties in getting a job if the company does drug testing of employees.


Depression, anxiety, and personality disturbances have been associated with chronic marijuana use. And some addicts show increased aggression.


Help is available for him if he wants it. The same for you.


You have to decide exactly what your priorities are and how badly you want to protect them.