In your opinion(s), is it OK?

I married a man whom I got to know via the Internet...


In our few months of marriage, I 'caught' him seeking to know gals via the Internet & to the extend, sending 'inviting' emails. He swear it was mere fun and possess no other intentions.


Does anyone need such fun? The trust I had for him is destroyed...

How long did you know this man before you got married?


In my opinion he is doing more than just "window shopping", he's practically putting stuff on lay away. *SMH* What is it with the "Dont worry, its just harmless fun!" I mean, when SHOULD you worry then, eh?

I think many men do stuff like this. He just wants a bit of attention, but I am sure he wouldn't want to meet these women.

His fragile ego obviosuly needs attention.

Don't worry.

I'd say worry. This isnt some broad sweeping "Men" have fragile egos and need attention thing...coz then we could say "Women" are needy and attention seeking and really that would be ok for them to do the same. Pshhh.


Self respect, sistah! If you are willing to put up with that because you think thats what you deserve, then yep, put up with it. Trust, as you said, once lost, is pretty impossible to regain. Say bye bye to being able to sleep with both eyes shut comfortably.

In my opinion... if a man is with me he shouldn't feel the need to be with other women in a compromising way... I think if I were you I'd make it clear if it's a real problem, or something you can live with ... for the rest of your married life.

From a mans perspective.


If he is doing this after only a few months of marriage, then worry

I would have to agree with both Justin and Tiger on this one !!! what does this behavior say about this guy ?? You've only been married for a couple of months, and he's ALREADY doing this !!!!!! Sh*t, the first few months and maybe even the first year, are supposed to be the "honeymoon phase" !!


If you really want to know what he is really up to.....give him my e-mail address, I'll set a trap, and see if he bites it......If he does, then kiss that marriage good bye !!!!

not a bad idea to ask a friend to set a trap and see if he 'bites' or wants to sleep with her. sorry you are in that situation!

I'd say the fact that he met YOU that way and that hes carrying on two way communication w them is a big worry. Ive gone babe surfing when in relationships and honestly it was harmless fun. I was just looking at pix of cute women online and reading their profiles. What I have NOT done is contacted any or if they contacted me I wouldn't get into any back and forth communication.


Annonymous chatroom conversation (I DONT mean chatroom sex either) is another thing but they never get any pictures or real contact info. If I did send them real contact info it would be a definite sign I actually intended to pursue some form of relationship w them.


And yes as the others have said Y'all should still be honeymooning. At this point in yr marriage he should be so well taken care of that he doesn't have the energy to even think about another woman. If he is, then either you aren't doing something right or else he is a really uncaring guy and not worth your trust and love.


Maybe he just likes flirty fun on the internet. Instead of making a big issue and picking a fight why don't you make a sexy profile up and contact him from it and have some fun. Maybe thats all he wants. Roleplay like you're not his wife (make sure he knows its you and that its a game though, dont make him think you are trying to entrap him or he will never trust you again either and then yes your trust will be done forever) Then on the sly watch and see if he keeps chatting up other women or he just gets into your game and is satisfied.