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zonked
14 yrs ago
Have you tried it and how have you felt after?
Inputs needed.
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It depends what the 'crime' is and what the planned 'punishment' is.
If it's a case of someone telling you sweet things and then dumping you...then the better option is to move on.
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Not worth the time or the effort. Life is short. Move on.
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Revenge often backfires.
The person taking revenge is often seen as the villain or even psycho.
By taking revenge, you will lose most of the sympathy that others had for your case.
In an Asian culture, you risk losing so much face that revenge is often mutually assured destruction. Perhaps why revenge, when it does happen in China, is a total nuking of the target. Very nasty with no winners.
The most effective form of revenge, in China, is when the other person does not know they have been attacked, they just know they have been damaged. They never know where the attack has come from. I don't think that is the kind of revenge the OP wants.
Best advice you have been given already.
Move on.
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Hi madtown. Some of us got it I am sure. But some will have taken you literally. Second language issue common on expat Websites ;-)
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Revenge just makes you look like a psycho...and even if it makes you feel great at the time, in hindsight you will feel like a terd smuggler!
Just grow up and move on.
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How about if you were the wife of the man who cheated on you seeking revenge, would you all still advise the same, esp. you Justin??
Why then a long time lover be treated any differently????
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I would give the same advice to a wife or g/f.
In fact the wife has more to lose. In a divorce case psycho behaviour can be used as evidence against the wife, even if she was cheated on.
We usually come to regret the things we did in anger. I have even seen people get fired from their job because of stupid behaviour in the personal life.
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agreed, psycho behaviour will lead to more loss than gain.
Then suggest another way to get even with a person. Why should I be treated unfairly and endure it quietly?
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And actually, why is revenge a psycho thing at all?
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Lol.. i thought you joking about it. True underlying emotions are revealed...
honestly i've done it. revenge. but not on my S.O. the best? its best you tell NO ONE about doing it. like Tigerbay stated. if you take any action, do it where none of it can be pointed back to you. No one else will know of except you and the target.
go for it.. I pulled it off once.. and got caught the other time. I looked like an idiot the time i got caught and the other.. well no one knew about except my target and me.. so all in all, it was A LOT of time planning wasted. no one knew about his embarrassment.
have fun :)
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Sometimes you can't get even with a person. In fact, most of the time you can't. In all my years in business, lots of people took an advantage of me, and there was nothing I could do about it. There's been only one case in which I got a bit even with someone who owned me money. I promised to release goods to him if he paid me. He transferred some money and I did not release the goods to him. He still owes me money. I just made my losses a bit smaller.
What kind of revenge people can do in a romantic sense I really don't know. I think that the word 'revenge' will make most people respond negatively to your post. Maybe what you want to do is something mild and it is more entertainment than revenge. Or maybe you want to do something extreme that will put you in jail for the rest of your life. Be careful not to take that route.
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I am a bit lost on the backstory though...why the need for revenge etc.
I initially thought you were the OP who carried on an affair with a married guy and then when he didn't leave his wife and dumped OP she went on to call the wife, all the time claiming it was so she could "save" the wife from further heartache...and then of course was flabbergasted that the wife not only stayed with the husband but then the husband continued on with a new mistress...hooooo, that OP was bitter as hell, going on and on about how that guy didn't learn his lesson...when really it was her that had a very valuable lesson thrust upon her and she was refusing to learn it.
But then...although your story sounds kinda similar, your alias doesn't ring a bell as being attached to that particular story...and since I am not clued in on how to go searching for previous posts without giving up my day job, well...maybe you can remind me, zonked, how your story is unique and why you think revenge will somehow make all the misery a memory.
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Devon
14 yrs ago
Madtown's sarcastic reply is hilarious!
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