Are there decent men here or out there?

I thought about whether to do this. I just had to. The story goes: My friend met a guy about 2 to 3 months ago online here and to cut the story short, he seemed like a decent fellow so things went along smoothly. I could tell she was happy with him.


Until yesterday. I had to break it to her that her guy has been writing to me secretly. I think he is doing the same to other posts too since my post is very old so he has obviously gone through the list. His nick starts with a "da". Gathering from what he told me about himself, it is him and it was confirmed when I asked her if he was going away next week.


I just feel so bad for my friend as she was really surprised and definitely upset. Honestly I was surprised too as she had only good things to say about him. She told me she asked him and he flatly denied it. Apparently he was none to happy about being found out and refused to admit it.


What is it about guys that would do stuff like that? What should I tell her to do? Need your ideas. Nevermind the fact that mr "Da" might be reading this. I just don't like to see my friend hurt. I know she would have done the same for me.


Please help.

We men are practical creatures. Walking on his shoes...if I am caught red-handed in this sort of behaviour the end will be nasty, so I don't see any point in admitting what I did. I would deny the facts even if you present them right on my face.


Is a proven fact that denying to the end causes the other person to question whether so much denial may means that I was actually telling the truth, that I am actually innocent...actually, to be frank, I did get away many times using this same technique.


Is over, kid. The guy wants to fool around, either accept it or break up with him.

Thanks for the post transhk. I feel upset for my friend not for myself (I am glad I didn't meet up with a bastard like him) but in a small way, wish I hadn't said it as I felt her happiness genuinely (not any more). My friend deserves better, and honestly, she is not some unattractive girl that has a problem attracting the opposite sex. She just needs better luck next time (maybe like me!). Days like these just drag me down.

Honest post Mark Larsen 2. This technique has been perfected throughout the centuries by men! When she told me I did think the same way, but at times, too much of a denial actually points to a very dirty underbelly.


Ultimately my friend decides and I would just have to stand by her. A pity, she genuinely likes him and thought he felt the same. I doubt he gave her any reason to not feel that way as she is not a dumb little innocent thing, she would have picked it up. To any woman currently writing to mr "da", just know what a person he is.