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freshjive
19 yrs ago
I am still in love with my ex. I know you people are going to holler at me and I have been trying to suppress it. But I cant. I tried to drown myself at work, keep my social life busy, try to meet more men but I cant help but think of him.
We talk over emails almost everyday. On his way back from a recent trip, he text me almost immediately after he reached.
When I mentioned that I bought a new dress, he said he wanted to take me out so that he could see the dress.
Yet he does not ask me out during weekends. I questioned him recently and he said that he was dating a few girls but he was not interested in them.
What should I do? I am still crazy over him.
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shaq
19 yrs ago
To still care is fine, but to be CRAZY .... Hmmm! You better get over your craziness before you go completely nuts.
Love is a two-way thing (you give and you take). You may be crazy about him, but ask yourself ... Is he crazy about ME? From what I can discern, he's definitely NOT in love with you (just as his other girls), let alone to be crazy about you.
My dear, there's so much goodies in this beautiful world to crave for and to seek (like me ... haha :P ... just kidding). Care for those who care about you and you'll live happily and longer. .... Peace out :D.
ShaQ
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U must tell him how u feel and find out if he feels the same way... not second guess whether he still loves u or not. For all you know he is responding on guilt. So have a good heart-to-heart talk with him. As long as u don't confront him... u won't be able to let go or move on.
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I guess what we are all telling you is TAKE CONTROL!
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I knwo easier said than done... but hey "no guts no glory"
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yeah I guess it is true... we r all running from something. Me... I'm just trying to forget... my last relationship... he called himself the ostrich and me the rabbit - what a visual!
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Obviously he is looking for something exciting new out of his severval boring dating. To be frank, you two may be attached becoz of the sex. If you dont like him, go for that and enjoy it. If you feel you still like him, you'd better step back as he is not serious. The more you input, the more you will be hurt. Just keep him and look forward. Good luck~~
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Thanks for all your advise.
Let me clarify. We did not have sex. Yeah, we are better behaved than any teenagers.
We met last week and he said that he would like to take one step at a time because he had built up many walls. Does it make sense? I am not sure what exactly is one step at a time. I mean, where are we now in the first place? Does he mean we are together and working it out or we stay as "friends" and work it out? Because after that date, we did not meet during the weekend. The only contact we made is via phone.
I will definitely need to have another talk with him. But I still need your advise. Do you think he is using me or he is just confused?
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i have been in the same situation before. what i did, i stopped communication with my ex. it was hard at first but i always think its for the best. if you try to continue this game with him, you will always have hope of getting back together and you will always be hurt. better if you get hurt for the last time than be hurt all the time.
whether he is confused or worse using you, you are just hurting yourself more.
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lulu
19 yrs ago
Dun play with it cos you will never win. There are so many other men around worth more effort. EX is an ex.
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Hey dudet some people can remain friends after a realtionship ends, but it is normally caused either through guilt, where one party is trying to do the correct thing and help them along after the relationship has ended. However this tends to prolong the pain. The other reason of course is when the other party has strong feeling for the other half and doesn't want to let go; probably in hope that at some time something could be rekindled. But the truth of the matter is, keeping the friendship out of guilt isn't correct and neither is keeping a friendship alive in hope of rekindeling the love. What to do??? Well for your own sanity you have to stop seeing your ex. You can either be honest with him and tell him why you don't want to see him. Hopefully this way he will help you by keeping his distance and letting you get over him. Or just start to ignore him, make excuses, which I think is the wrong way.
If you think you can handle seeing him with a new GF and not be upset about it, especially if they are showing each other affection. It is then probably ok to have a friendship.
hope this helps
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