sorry but it may be too late, Never...you've been letting him get away with all that for 3 years.
you will have to attempt some drastic reconditioning if you want results, i.e. reward and punishment, or positive and negative reinforcement, for desired/undesired behaviors. easier said than done, and much more effective on children and dogs than on grown men.
THAT kind of dirty underwear? eeeeeeeeeeuuuuuuwwww GROSS!
good luck
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Never, i guess these things are more noticeable now that you're thinking of moving in together?
prepare yourself girl - everything changes once you move from dating to living together. only the couples who REALLY TRULY know each other - and love each other nevertheless, warts and all! - survive the transition.
<:-O eeeeeeeuuuuuwww! sorry Never i can't help but be totally grossed out by the thought of his underwear :-P barf barf barf
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first do some homework about snoring:
http://www.entnet.org/healthinfo/snoring/snoring.cfm
http://www.webmd.com/content/article/105/107678.htm
then if worse comes to worst, tell your bf that snoring can get him hurt, or even murdered:
http://www.firstcoastnews.com/news/strange/news-article.aspx?storyid=39088
http://www.tennessean.com/local/archives/05/03/68167551.shtml?Element_ID=68167551
;-D
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oh my...pooing on newspaper is truly gross......
my husband can be pretty gross too with lots of irritating habits (following is NOT an exhaustive list, haha):
1) leaving empty glasses and dirty coffee mugs everywhere
2) skid marks in underpants and "dutch ovens" ( he does these with great pride)
3) "bombs" the toilet really badly you would think it hasn't been washed in a month.
but i knew that right from the start and i guess if nagging doesn't help...just try to get around it. e.g. for #3, we use different bathrooms in the house...he's got his own private throne that i wouldn't go near unless the cleaner has dropped by for the week....
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eeeeeeeeeeeeeeuu!!! that is disgusting! Out of curiosity Never how old is the guy? I tell my 5 year old son that it is unacceptable for a kid his age to have such issues. I do believe though that it is not your role to potty train him. His mother did not do it properly and no matter how "mature or open" your relationship is, he will be mad at you for treating him like a child. On the other hand, do you see yourself continuing a relationship with such a bloke?? Think carefully and good lucky.
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justin credulous: yes, he is hoping my baby boy will pick up the art of dutch ovens. baby gets lots of praises from him for farting and burping...it's a hopeless situation so i don't even try to do anything about it.
never: most pads in sg have 2 bathrooms, not just bigger ones....lucky for me!! :)
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justin, that is a good point...nothing gets the hubby into the shower faster than the idea he is going to get some when clean....
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a good quality firm mattress should help reduce his snoring
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On the rare occassions that my other half snores (usually when hammered),I give a swift dig in the ribs. That ususally works.
Laughed at the toilet 'bomb' and 'dutch oven' chat further up this thread. I don't know one (normal) couple that doesn't have this in the relationship. Blokes really do think farting is hilarious.
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...and it starts young, very young. my 13-year-old son believes he is the SWAT Sniper of Directional Farts. i think he does it just to hear me scream.
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Oh yes it is!!! Soemtimes we have to get our own back!
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Royster - I think you'll find that the recommended in-take is 8 glasses of water a day.
Also - pissed people tend to snore more than sober ones.
Other than that, a very amusing post.
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oK about snoring...my hubby snores badly when he's had too much to drink...i hold his nose until he chokes and he'll wake up and stop snoring when asleep again...
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ravii
18 yrs ago
never he is NEVER going to change. have u heard dogs tail put in a pipe to make straight 10years still comes out curved.
and FOR SURE all the boys out there she is not going to dump u for ur OOOOOOOPS...UUUUUUUGH.......OOOOOOOOMMMMMM......AAAAAAAAAAEEEEEEEE manners ......
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Regarding the snoring, it is possible that it due to a medical condition. People with sleep apnea tend to snore and this is a condition that should not be ignored. You may want to suggest to your boyfriend that he get a medical exam to rule out any underlying medical causes for his snoring. Pay attention to the snoring (after all you aren't sleeping anyway) so that you can describe it to his doctor in detail. Pay particular attention to whether or not he seems to be holding his breath between snores. This is a major indicator of sleep apnea. If the doctor suspects that your boyfriend is suffering for this condition he will probably be scheduled for a sleep study test. If he does in fact suffer from this, it is treatable. If the medical exam rules out an underlying medical cause then I would suggest you start wearing earplugs. My husband snores and this is what I do. It isn't perfect but it does reduce the noise to a more tolerable level.
As for the hygiene issues address them one at a time with plenty of time in between so that you don't seem to be slamming him. Since the flushing issue seems to be the most annoying for your start there. Since you are considering moving in together you might start the conversation with something like "sweetie, once we start living together I am sure that we will both do things that annoy or upset each other. I hope that we can always discuss these things and learn to compromise and to accomodate each other." Now providing that he agrees with this openning statement you can go on to say "well there is one thing that really is bothering me right now .... The main thing is to address this issue as though it is your issue and not his. you have to say it in a way that does not immediately put him on the defensive. Play the "woman card" as in " I know that men don't pay much attention to these things but ... Whatever issues and however you choose to address them, address them with kindness. You can't change the person but sometimes you can change the behavior.
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Never, Let me know how things work out.
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God this is hilarious!!!! HOORAAAHHH FOR ALL THE SINGLE PEOPLE!
Never - have you tried hypnosis?
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you could talk with him about this, in relationship it need communicate
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