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Arev
18 yrs ago
Meet this guy over a dating website... chatted over telephone calls & via SMS for a week before we met for the 1st time just last weekend...
During the course of SMS & telephone calls, we enjoyed each other and the date we had was great... We really enjoyed each other... He told me so while I kept it to myself... Guess we do have good impression of each other and he expressed his wish to see me again and has sent me SMS to continue the communication between us...
I do want to respond to his SMS fast but on the other hand, do not want to be "seen" as eager... Not trying to play hard to get here but I do believe if a girl is "easy" to be gotten, she might not be cherished and treasured much...
How & what can I do to let him know I am also keen to know him better yet not seemingly too eager...
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maxis
18 yrs ago
Arev,
From a guy's perspctive I'd suggest being encouraging and interested and say "yes!, pick me up at 8pm". But then perhaps keep intimacy back, get to know him well personally, then encourage him more if you want to. Don't forget, being alluring is NOT playing hard to get (it turns decent guys off!)
Don't appear disinterested as he may be road testing several and scratch you out if you appear disinterested.
If he seems worth it then invest some energy, don't be a complete open book of course, a bit of intrigue is nice.
b.t.w. the above worked well on me and am very happy now :)
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788
18 yrs ago
Good advice above, Arev. With a good balance of having a life besides this fellow and adjusting your schedule to meet him... you should not come across as too eager.
I have always done what you have been doing, Roxy Gal... and I have rarely had a problem. If someone thinks you are easy for being honest, then chuck them out. May be depends on what activities you did on your first few dates?;) May be not, depends on what type of guys too.
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Unfortunately for people like us(straight-forward types), Roxy Gal, there aren't many appreciative guys!!
I think guys do like women who play games... have you read "Why men like bitches"? There is some truth in it. Though I can't change myself for the sake of guys!
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788
18 yrs ago
Sorry, Roxy Gal I made an incorrect assumption from your last question- whether you had been doing anything wrong or not.
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Hard to get SHOULD mean make us wait for it a little and tease a bit to make us all crazy.
NOT feigning disinterest or we will be scratching our heads and wondering if its not worth the time, energy and money (for dates) chasing after something that seems like its going no where.
My suggestion, as a guy, is play easy to arrange dates with and have a great time with, kiss, make out, whatever. Just dont give it up right away (that way we dont think youre a slut)and he will be so into you, you'll make him crazy for it. Just dont make wait so long that his interest turns to frustration.
Challenging woman = yes
Bitch? F%&k no! we hate bitches (our moms nag us, We dont want a GF or God forbid a wife that does too.
Disinterested? whatever, we can move on to somebody who wants to spend time w us.
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Just do it,
speculating on what another may be thinking is a waste fo time. Find ot if the interest is really mutual and if not then move on, and if yes then let things unwind naturally
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If u like the guy want to go around with him then be straight , fooling conveys wrong signal.
Scorpio
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Well, like, here's another perspective: do you want your relationship to be built around manipulation and deceit? Geeze, why not just be honest, authentic to who you are, and trust that if it works, it works, and if it doesn't work, it wasn't meant to be.
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