Afraid of commitment????

Honest question here.. is there really such a thing as being afraid of commitment or is it a matter of not wanting to be accountable for someone else's feelings??.. coz lets face it, thats one HUGE responsibility!

basically having to be answerable to someone else.. as well as yourself

Do you mean you don't want to have to "care" about someone else's feelings? I don't understand.


We are all responsible in some way for other people's feelings. If an old fat lady steps on my foot, I'm not going to scream "You old fat bag!" at her because it might hurt her feelings. If my lover says she loves me, I'm not going to go off and sleep with someone else, because it would hurt her feelings (among other reasons). In that way, I'm responsible for her feelings. And yes, that's part of commitment.


Jean, you do sound a lot like my ex, whose name also starts with a J. Only I have to admit you're a bit more rational...


Caring about someone else's feelings is indeed a part of commitment. Avoidance of taking responsibility for someone else's feelings can indeed be construed as fear of commitment.


Remember, it's not a one way street. Presumably your partner takes responsibility for your feelings as well! Isn't it a worthwhile trade toward a stable, long-lasting relationship for someone you love?


Love requires sacrifice! If one is not willing to make any sacrifice, then they're not capable of love.

i meant being responsible for someone else's feelings in a relationship scnario. so me and your ex share common ground once again the poor man.. probably not a good thing...but who's to say? dont get me wrong, i am certainly not advocating not caring about other people's feelings and i have nothing against commitment either. quite the contrary.