he's just not that in to me...

It's rather sad, but i guess there are so many gals out there who have same experience like me.


about 1 month ago, i met this guy from the internet. he sent me a msg after he saw my profile in one of the website. and we talked a bit on msn. it was pretty brief though, and he did not even ask my name or phone #.


after couple of days, we talked again on msn. this time he asked me out. we agreed to went out for dinner follow by drink in san li tun area.


when we finally met, i was kinda nervous and i think he could see that. but after sometime i loosen up a bit and we actually had a great time in the restaurant.


after dinner, he took me into one of the bar in sanlitun. we sat there and had a couple of drinks and had a really really great conversation. After hours of talking, we hit the dance floor and we kissed. pertty shocking experience for me coz i never kissed a guy on my first date ever!

but mannnn...he was such a good kisser!!!!


it was my greatest date ever! he drove me home and also text me in the following day saying asking how was i doing that day, was i feeling much better after drinking pretty much of coktails, and he said that he had a great time.


he still sent me a msg in the next couple of days and we talked on msn few times and he even said he wanted to ask me out again..but as you can guess from the topic of this post... he never did...


first i thought maybe because he was very busy (as i know he's working in a pretty big company) and he also got sick 1 week after we went out.


after waiting for 2 weeks, sadly but true, i am now realize that "he's just not that in to me". i was pretty dissapointed..because i thought we really had a great time and i really liked him and i could feel that he liked me too (at least that was the signal i got from him that night).


during the "waiting" period, we still talked a couple of times on msn, but only simple chat, and he didnt ask me out again.


for you info, this is the first time i have a great feeling for a chinese guy,

but hey.. what can i do. we're just not meant to be. life goes on..time to move on.

From my experiences, men WILL call if they want to see you regardless of his health, schedule, weather conditions, location, and any other misc obstacles we think that might prevent them from asking us out. However, having said that, I do think that if you really enjoyed his company and want to see him again, ask him out. What is the worst he can do other than to say no? If he says no, then you know for sure, he dosent want to see you. There is no shame in asking someone out.

I've been to San Li Tun in Beijing. is there one in Shanghai? am not sure as I have not been to San Li Tun in Shanghai. btw, does it matter??

Poiuy is right. Id crawl thruogh the desert without water to ask back out a girl Im really into. But Im not Chinese and "speed" of social interaction/progression is so different across the cultures. Of course not with everyone but on the whole if someone is a more traditional Chinese type compared to your avg American or European. Its like bicycle racing compared to superbike speeds. No offense to anyone. When my Chinese GF finally kisse me it rocked my world, SO worth the wait!


But my Chinese guy friends seem deathly afraid of rejection while us foreigners have no face so we cant lose it and don't care. I mean it still stings to get rejected by someone you are into but we know its just part of the game. If you put yourself out there sometimes its going to happen. But I agree with Blatant, give him some confidence and hint (hard so you are sure he gets it because we men sometimes cant take a hint) that you would really like a repeat performance and see what happens. If hes still not interested my cell no. is... Just kidding!


Good luck p34ch_g4l

you just met a player!

learn from experiences!

if he is into you, he will call you. really. man is like that.

i change my mind about people all the time .... being in a group , meeting , family , or class regularly is a good way of getting past inconsistency and gives more likelyhood of positive regular interaction. What do you want most ? Trustworthyness or something else ? If you want it ...go and get it .

even when he's into you, doesn't mean he will be loyal or trustworthy although he professes to be. Men are liars who let you think you are the most amazing thing that happened to him. lie.