wat to do to make them create less problem for me & hubby?

Last nite went to in law place, now my bb is 7 mths old now then they wanna look after her but my bb had been under my mum care since i start working, I do not know what's in their mind, always find problem for me & hubby. We alredy giving an amt to them every mth. they are not disable or wat they are strong and healthy they can work but choose to laze ard at home since they are got married, and make their sons work at young age & contribute to them monthly at a big amt, nw we had married, still need to contribute (I do not mean after marriage no need to contribute to our parent bt maybe lesser abit?my own parent voluntart to ask me to contribute a hundred lesser )and they have the cheek to demand for more. They have other sons but behave the same way as them, do not work or got work but spend more on their own family (i do not blame them as they are not in the wrong as we work so hard of course we need to get some nice things for ourselves) but pls spare some thoughts for us!!!


The problem is: They have dogs at home and they like to speak vulgar language at home & my moth inlaw cant even differentiate whether my bb poo poo or not and she can ask me to bath my bb when she is having fever, how can i let her look after my bb? She do not go out and she claim that if she go out she always fall down or hurt herself when do things as she is FAST WORKER, these make me even more worry if my bb is under her care, and the dogs... they are allow to play ard freely at their home(as they are stray dogs so is kind of difficult to train them now, they cant train the dogs well anyway as they are really violent to the dogs at times) , morever dogs are animals... ...they cant think... ...what happen if they bit her little fingers off or drag her down frm the bed? after that APOLOGIES??? ????


My hubby actually explain that because they have dogs at home so we decided to let my mum look after. Now she still can say : "let me look after lah! I get to see my grand daughter only weekend leh! & pls lah let her get used to the dogs, fur ... ... the dogs wont bit... ... no problem one"


So sorry to say that, i do not care when she get to see her, to me she cant even take good care of herself, and she isnt up to my standard when come to bb sitting. Local chinese esp older chn mum are so particular abt confinement & bb sitting but my in law, she is so SUCK UP, she say everything so nice before my wedding & b4 my bb born, but things are so differently after that, these incident really pissed me off.

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Stick to your guns, keep more money, tell your husband that now he has a wife and baby, a family of his own, he needs to take care of his OWN family. My mother had to do this to my grandparents...tell them that their son was now married and couldnt just keep supporting them as he had a baby and wife to support. Of course my grandfather swore, all f-in and bleepin and called my mother all sorts of names but my mother stuck to her guns. Yes, we are asian...you are going to have to be the strong one or this will end up besting you. This is YOUR baby we are talking about, if you dont feel comfortable leaving your baby in the care of some swearing, lazy, dog owning, in laws...then DONT.


Your choice on how you word this, of course.