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yeah, changed my lifestlye a lot!

All i can say is... you can figure out and can get better life if you dare.

Im very happy woman, finally i got married with my husband. I can't imagine when i first meet him last january 2004,we saw each other twice in one day by accidentally. Ops! i believe that's a destiny in the Gods perfect time and perfect place> Good luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I am a man who followd my wife back to China 4 years ago. Not HK but Shanghai.


We are both middle aged, so I did not do the usual xpat thing of marrying a woman much younger than myself. My Wife is Chinese, we met in UK.She did not want to stay in UK as there are more opportunities here.


There was a complete role reversal for me. In UK I would have been chief income earner. Here my wife has a very good job, and my job is secondary.


I don't really enjoy my job most of the time, and I hate living in Shanghai. It really is a rat race. We have an appartment in Shanghai and a house in another beuatiful city, and we have vacatioaned elsewhere. There are many beuatiful cities and wonderful people in China, but for me the culture in Shanghai is poor. I was even called unproffessional for having to chage my leave dates, and clients expected me to come back of leave early for meeting. I refused.


On my last holiday I got several phone calls and SMS about work related stuff. None of it that urgent. If I was a senior manager you expect this, but I am not even a manager. In the end I stopped answering or reading SMS. This was a bit of a surprise.


I have very little social life as most of the married expats have kids. The single guys have different intersts and my wife does not trust them. I have to admit that some of them are like a dog with two tails LOL.


I have been through culture shock. Last year was the angry phase. Some days I just wanted to start something so I could beat the crap out of them. Befor I am judged as a pscho, most men will admit other men of feeling like this.


I get very lonely and isolated and I often suffer with stress and depression. Although I should learn Chinese I am sometimes resentful. This is illogical as having more language would give me more freedom.


Sometimes I get lonely and paranoid, 'maybe she has a boyfriend' I think. Sometimes she thinks I might have a girl. In this city it would be so easy and I have been tempted, but have not gone there.


Well this is a man's reply.