My BF has a liking for a China gal but claims that he loves me only.?

I have been with him for 3 years. 6 months ago he met and likes a China gal. Upon discovery he ended it. So he said. But I think he is still contact ing her and seeing her when in China every month. When he is with me he does loves me very much and said that he wants to be with me. I do believe that he loves me. And I love him very much But I cant stand the thought and always in constant fear that he is still seeing or contacting her?! What can I do and how can I oversome my fear to trust him again?

Of course he has not ended it.

Hi there, 3 years of life together is not something that you can through away just like that. your suspicion and insecurity is turning you the losing side of this relationship. We don't live in the old world, admit it day in and day out dating men and women could face alternate flirtation of some sort, and it feels good (no?) to know that you are attractive. But coming down to life and reality its another thing.


Jealousy is a poison for relationship, if you reduce that amount and be yourself comfortably, cheerfully and DESIRABLE, the outcome would be different, he might start to worry he would lose you to someone rather than you worrying. Be seductive and strong, find that from within yourself. Cant worry too much, no? today there is this China gal, tomorrow there might be a Thai gal, and so on….you yourself have no life if you were too sunk into worrying about him for all these. BTW, he would be an *ssh*le not worthy of you by not respecting this relationship, but doesn't mean that you can be all suspicious about him, I would be so turned off if I were a guy. (BTW, I am a cheerful female with BF). Relationship maintenance requires a lot of balancing act (rather than sacrifies). Cheers.

Moltobella is right (I am American, male living in Shanghai). However, if you have given him a second chance, don't give him a third. Until then, put the past behind and enjoy life, with an eye open.

the trust has been broken and you both need to reestablish that, otherwise you don't have a love relationship, simple as that.

molto bella is absolutely right, same attitude i put on my BF who i gave him the second chance.