Okay, not to sound all maudlin, but-- my daughter informed me that what she REALLY wanted for Christmas was "a new Daddy."*
However, she added: "So, Mom, that means you need to date first."
My 14-year old wants me to wait until she is out of the house in 3+/- years!!
I have a group of single female friends who are all 5-7 years older than I [I'm 37 next Monday], and they have collectively claimed 2006 as "the year to end singleness."
As I am not fraught nor a "despie" [too independent?] I am unsure as to where/how to look. The last times I was dating, I found guys at school—in college, in my Masters program, in more studies… So should I go back to school ?
Is there a question in this? Yeah, the same one everyone else is asking: how do I get my married bf to dump his wife..no, No, NO, wait…really!!! Just kidding.
The same OTHER question everyone else is asking—where are the nice single guys?? Where are the eligible single guys who would be interested in a white gal?
I know, I've asked the un-answerable. Just wanted to start a thread, I guess!!!
*[I was separated from her bio father when she was 2 yrs 9 mo.s; he is totally out of the picture and I've carried on about that relationship enough recently; to rephrase Caesar: venting, vented, unvented!]
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why should it be a problem for a caucasian gal to get a bf in asia? not all expats or locals are into local gals. just keep your mind open. good luck for the year of the dog then.
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Kirsten, perhaps going to schol is not a bad idea. Several people on this forum have claimed to meet their significant other whilst studying. Not only may you meet a special someone, you will be bettering yourself at the same time.
Go for it!
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concerning ad youself you can read a couple of scary stories in this forum already.
(in case you are talking about internet?)
It might work in a decent mag or paper
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Chiki-- As a "single mom" I don't really do ANYTHING in terms of getting out by myself. It's not that I can't-- daughters are old enough to be alone at home--I'm just SOOOOO out of contact with any "scene." And, frankly, I would be much more comfortable if I had someone with whom to go out -- girlfriends, I mean. My single friends make their own schedule and do their own thing, and marrieds-with-kids seem incapable of being out past 8!! I don't know any kidless couples.
Oh--single depends upon your definition. I've been a single mom since June 1999, but wasn't leagally divorced so couldn't date until March 2004. Had a 4 month fling then [definitely was NOT a rebound relationship!!] and came to BJ in October 2004.
Dateless ever since!
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HEY KRISTIN!!!
I'm in the seame boat; and is note easy I'm a single mom 31y/o and guys love me but as soon as I say I have kids they very politely run away!!
I don't lose hope, how ever last thing I want is a one night stand they can have it with all those g/ in wan chai, but if you are up to for a coffe we might have a chat and one night go and party together, take care
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Hey Doncella--
Well, unlike 90% of the people who post, I am NOT based in HK but am in Beijing. But, drop me a line?
Bear--we have a lunch non-date when you get here, right?
Rogue et al:
The Horror Stories are easiest to find. The "Happy Couples" rarely have time to write volumes about their situations.
And, to all:
After starting this, and after the "Year To End Singleness" decree from my friends, I have realized-- I'm not really looking.
I don't "make time" to go to places --don't know places, frankly--and life is fantastic except for the cold and lonely other side of the bed [maybe just buy a smaller bed?].
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Maybe a bit of feng shui?! When in Rome....
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Kristen, Happy birthday!
I hope you'll find a nice guy for you and the girls soon!
Although you dont have that much single girlfriends, I would suggest you to stay active and show your face out there as much as possible like international conferences, new hobbies etc
You never know whom you bump up to, right?
So how about buying something nice for yourself to get dressed? It's all about to see and to be seen!
Good luck!
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19 yrs ago
As false as it sounds, get a couple of outfits for going out with friends. Ones which make you feel attractive yet not trying too hard, eg, tops which can be added to work pants to dress it up. Just have them ready in caes there is a night out with your friends.
I know it sounds pretentious to suggest but I am 35 with 2 kids, and I work on clothing with samples all around the place. I had not really needed any going out clothes for 3 yrs and then suddenly started going out. With so many things to choose from I found it enormously difficult to realise I am not 18 any more, and any old sexy top doesn't look good anymore. I had to find tops/skirts.pants which I didn't feel frumpy in. You don't need many. Two good outfits is a start.
That is stage one to me anyway, then I don't freak out the day of the outing, with kids you don't have the luxury of spending a day shopping.
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hey sub-- I must've "heard" your message whilst out today. I've decided to have a sweater made for myself... 35RMB plus the yarn... picking a complementary color [I have those Tar Heel blue eyes which make ppl stop if I am wearing the right color top].
If the process is satisfactory, then I'll repeat!!
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Happy Birthday Kristin!
You know what. To make people notice you, you have to love yourself first and be happy. People like to be with people who are happy. Also make you look your best always! Enjoy your birthday. Enjoy yourself...
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