Married ladies

Wondering if there's any married lady with similar experience. I am married and falling in love with another man. We haven't done anything and are not going to even though we have the same feelings towards each other. I am just looking for other ladies who have been through that and would like to share their thoughts with me.

and how do you feel about your hubby at the same time? be honest? you probably still love him but are not in love with him?

ludmillan - check your inbox in control panel

Thanks for your messages sd&ludmillan. Thanks for sharing your story ludmillan. How long have you been married for? Any kids?

hello Ludmillan - u got my reply in your inbox, pls check.

Hi breeze,

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Question - how can you be falling in love with this man if 'nothing' has happened between you two?


Sorry, just playing devil's advocate here

I wonder if passionate love really does have an expiry date for some-me included.

Please check your mail breeze

jil, i have two stories for you. yesterday i had a catch-up lunch with a girl friend. she comes from a very conservative family - or rather, her parents are very conservative (old school asians). she shocked the h*ll out of me by casually mentioning that her MOM had been having an affair for the past six years. her mom is a lady in her 50s, and has been married to my friend's dad for 40+ years. my friend and her siblings know who the guy is, and he is in his late 50s - not some young studly don juan, but an old family friend! mom isn't going anywhere, i.e. she has no intention of leaving her husband, so my friend believes it is really a deep friendship rather than just sex...which means it is a serious infidelity on mom's part (emotional involvement). yet, being of the generation that doesn't believe in divorce, mom is not going anywhere. but mom's paramour must be giving her *something* she needs, at least emotionally, to have been at it for 6 years.


story #2 is about someone else very close to me. she had an affair in her 2nd year of marriage (she was in her mid-20s at the time). it is a VERY long story but suffice it to say that the affair balanced out something her husband had done while they were engaged. the point is that my friend lucked out and had this fling with a very nice single guy - she too never had any intention of leaving her marriage. the affair lasted less than a year, the guy was discreet, my friend's husband never found out, and the affair ended naturally and amicably when the guy left hk to go back to the u.s. meantime, she and her hubby are still together (10 years now), and going strong. as far as i know she never had another affair again - i guess she got the "balance" she needed.


i guess my point is that your situation is probably more common than you think. these things happen to married women of all ages, for a variety of reasons. as breeze pointed out, context is very important.


i think it's also nice that for once here is a thread that isn't full of anger and judgments - there's a lot of sympathy and discretion. perhaps it's because at least we know married women have tried to make a go of things, but for some reason are not getting something they need from their marriages.