He is a little short right now, money wise. Will he be offended if I give him money to help out? Other things I should think about before I pull out my purse?
Will you do the same thing?
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give him money for what? your dating expense? yes go ahead, and its nice to always do so no matter he's short or not. but if you are talking about his rent and stuff, NO.
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Good questions Electrode.
I dated one guy at one point who was kind of short of cash as well coz he was paying a high allowance to his ex. I paid for lots of our fancy dinners. But, I'll never pay for his personal expenses such as clothing unless it's a gift for some special occasions.
Paying endlessly for a guy will either offend him eventually or you'll be taken advantage of. No point of doing so.
Wonder why the same rule doesn't apply to girls. I know there're heaps of guys out there throwing lots of cash on their GFs. It's not a fair world, isn't it?
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There is nothing wrong with a woman paying for a date etc.. BUT make sure your generosity is not being used to finance ANOTHER woman, ie. his baggage (ex, mother of children etc..).
Also if you are to pay don't make a big deal of it. This is sometimes complicated as waitress ALWAYS give the bill to the man.
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I'm going to take this debate up a notch. In this world of equality, why can't woman pay just as much as men pay?
Normally i will always try and pay for every date just because I want my gf to be happy and I want the feeling that I did this and I made the date happen, but why can't women pay as much? even from the first date?
I will expect to pay the first date, even up to first 3,4,5 dates. but after that I would want the girl to attempt to pay for a date (Even if i didn't accept her money) just so i know she isn't using, otherwise i would say bye. I don't mind paying for dates and cinemas etc etc, but when i am paying for all her bus, underground and taxis, i think its a bit "taking the piss" haha.
The guy might be a bit strapped for cash at the moment so I say pay for a date or two, just do it, don't care about his ego, at the time it might be damaged but later on (couple of hours) he will think back and really appreciate it that you are helping out. But i also agree with what somebody said about don't pay for his clothes etc etc.
What do you reckon?
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Hey MarkClayton, aren't the girls doing this already? You must be dating the wrong types :). From what I heard, all of my girlfriends pay for their dates now and then.
Recently I dated a guy. He insisted to pay for both our dinners (we only have dated twice so far) so I paid for the drinks afterwards. Also bought him lots of local souvenirs from Shanghai for him to bring back to UK when I return from a business trip in SH.
So, not all girls are not paying. Hope this makes you feel better. Cheers.
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Money for your date, No unless you are paying for sex.
The only excuse for giving money to a man is if he is still in school and thus doesn't have an income. Another maybe is if he has unexpected expenses (went into the hospital for emergency surgery, had to pay for a relative's funeral etc). For living expenses...absolutely no. Unless you plan to support him forever.
It would be a nice gesture to pay on your dates for a while though. It speaks not of him, but of you. Are you just a taker?
And forget about "loans". Just assume that you will never see that money again.
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