Posted by
attaahhhh
18 yrs ago
I met a guy the other day while clubbing with my friends and we both showed interest towards each other in the beginning; but things did pop up and interfered. At last we managed to get together again. Well, in fact, I never believe that you can really develop any relationship with someone you meet at a club. And the fact is also that he looks like that kind anyway, and I think he thinks the same about me as well.
We had a conversation that night and I have told him that I am not looking into some one night fantasy, while he frankly told me that he wasn't sure how it would turn out but he just wanted it for the night at that moment. (proly the "wasn't sure" was just a courtesy; i don't know...)
Anyways, I did sleep with him in the end (and believe me or not this is the first time I ever do that with someone I just met). Now I do think of him and want to call him. Not that I think we should have a committed relationship or what since we barely know each other, but just to have some casual chat or be friends <-- am I even too naive to have such a thought??
Anyways, I am thinking: since I have actually let him know that I wasn't just looking for a one night fantasy, he would have called me if he is still interested, is that right? and how would it look like if I give him a call? would it seem that I am "cheap" or something?
I want to hear some guys' opinions. Thanks.
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I agree with Pumpkin...sleeping on the first night...or even second night can go on to have a solid relationship...but, the sad fact is he hasn't called...
If he was interested he would have called.
If you call him...he might be interested again in having a "second night" only and not a relationship...if that is what you are seeking.
Reality sucks...
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guys would never think about serious relationship if they only wanted a swing with a girl when they first met
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some guys wouldnt care to be friends after the swing!
catch the drift?
and i would never regard a guy as "friend" if he only slept with me for fun
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thanks everyone for your replies... i guess i juz needed assurance... cuz that's realli wut i thot too... but juz having some kinda false hope... lol...
and to reply some of you...
chat_noir: we weren't sober then...
aspect: personally... i dun think it's a pride thing anywayz... my way... if to get my pride back... i would just NOT call him...
beancurd: we did exchange contacts n mentioned will see again... but honestly as i have said... it's more like a courtesy thing i think...
afterall... i think i was just stupid...
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360
18 yrs ago
well, look at it this way - you had a great time right?
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don't ever think you're stupid and don't underestimate your worth. we've all been there, done there, it's just one of those painful ways to learn the relationship games.
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360
18 yrs ago
don't think about it anymore. move on, enjoy life, have fun :)
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yea... juz gotta live with it... not that we haven't been thru rite? juz some kinda fantasy i guess...
but to 360: same issue as mentioned in the other post... not that we didn't enjoy it or wut... but honestly that's the difference between women n men i think... (but of coz i do kno women who cud take it so casually...) anywayz... so either we juz learn to be like u guys taking it so easy (which i dun realli wanna turn into that kinda women...) or juz simply dun get laid anymore...
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Sorry hon, if you slept with him so soon, the likelihood of him wanting more is slim. I know our ego tends to get in the way of things, but don't take it personally. Think of it a rule that always apply, something that hardly ever deviate. Beside there is plenty of fish in the sea, if nothing develops with this fish clearly there is a better fish waiting for you.
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