Posted by
cookie09
15 yrs ago
if the relationships is serious (i.e. leading up to marriage and has potential for a happy life) i would stay. if it's just a fling i would probably walk away.
it's also different if the person has aids and not just HIV. if aids has broken out, it can have serious implications on the life of the couple.
i have an uncle who is HIV positive and he and his partner are in a 15 year happy relationship. not a big issue for them except having to use protection always
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What? U wanna ppl to assure u that u shud get bk to a cheating, AIDS infected chump? Geez!
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As is almost always the case, I find myself in total agreement with Flashback. They say that love (this short-lived chemical reaction in the brain) is blind. Well, it's time you opened your eyes, tk1600. This is a man who is prepared to screw around reckless of the risk of infecting his victims with HIV. Lucky you don't have it. But what about his other women? How would you feel if one of them suddenly turned up with AIDS? How would you feel about him if you did have HIV? Time to stop all this romantic nonsense about being in love. You are in love with your image of him. Look at him for what he really is. Forget him.
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tk i don't want to scare you unnecessarily, but you might want to take another HIV test in about 3 months.
HIV tests may give a false negative result (showing negative while person is actually HIV positive) during the window period, an interval of three weeks to six months between the time of HIV infection and the production of measurable antibodies to HIV. Most people will develop measurable antibodies within 1-3 months after infection, but in very rare cases it can take up to 6 months.
What I am saying is that the chance that he (unknowingly) infected you is 0.000001% or lower after your negative result, but you should still do a second test to be 100% sure.
And of course you should not take back this guy because his behavior sounds rather reckless from the information you have provided.
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Other than that, everyone jumps to a "conclusion" to quickly, if you study the subject, it is not so common for men to contract HIV from normal "hetrosexual" sex. So, maybe it has been contracted from intravenous drug use, or homosexual sex, both reasons more likely, I doubt to think anyone in this world sets out to contract this disease, but human nature is certainly quick to jump to conclusions and ridicule. Further to that, I am not condoning any of the above, but there is clearly feelings invloved.
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Ahna
15 yrs ago
If he was being honest with me, confessing it before we indulged in anything, like a true lover, I would certainly not hold a disease against him. Sure, HIV and AIDS does limit your life in many ways... but love is love. To withdraw from somebody, because they have a disease, is unacceptable. To withdraw, because the relationship is unhealthy, or because protection is not used, is alright to me. As long as the reason for a break is not the disease itself, it's fine.
I honestly, feel disgusted, to see all the reprehension associated with HIV and AIDS. People need to learnt their facts, and learn to love. I would take the risk - but protection is indispensable. If I still, unluckily, contracted it, and my boyfriend ran off 6 months later, I would of course, look upon it with regret, but knowing I made the correct choice at the time.
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easyl
15 yrs ago
get the counselling of a specialist , a doctor. now depending on how serious ur relationship is, if u guys are deep and in love, then u will not have to leave, but proceeed but this time with lot of care and medical help, leaving is just killing the other person,
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To put it simply:
Guy with HIV: Selfish, a natural womanizer, wont stop to the end. mark my word. And preys on the dateless and the desperates.
Woman: Dateless and desperate.
Come to think of it. Its this simple. Lets stop any more analysis and let the woman do what she wants. Men only go by the flow as long as the woman wants. and if the woman wants, so will the man want to bed her more. She asked a question here bec she knows the right thing to do but her emotion is so caught up by her desperation.
And one thing is so obvious here. The woman loves the man while the ma just dont care at all. and it will continue to be this way especially when that woman take him back. Wanna bet?
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since he cheated on u twice,id say leave him
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is it possible to get infected from deep kissing? i am kinda freaked out now!
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my opinion is 'no' except if you have an open wound in both of your mouths (which is a very very very small chance)
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Are you really..that desperate for affection TK? Can you NOT find a good man here? Are you really THAT lonely?
This is sad..no..this is pathetic. OF COURSE YOU LEAVE HIM!! HE CHEATED ON YOU!!!
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selda
15 yrs ago
Oh dear, love really makes people insane.
This guy slept around without using a condom. Even if he didn't get infected with HIV, he could have caught a lot of other nasty STDs, chlamydia for example could scar your Fallopian tubes and leave you permanently infertile.
You should count yourself lucky that this guy is out of your life, and you are healthy and safe.
Hopefully he will learn from his mistakes, but there is no guarantee that he will.
He needs to find himself, come to terms with his illness, turn a new leaf and start dating women again only when he is ready to be in an exclusive, mature and committed relationship. It will take him a while to get there. He might find a new partner on a dating site for HIV positive people, which will make things easier, or someone who is willing to use a condom forever and have children through IVF.
It's far too early for him to be dating. He should focus on finding himself and respecting women. A womaniser is usually a very insecure person, who doesn't care much about the damage he does. Stay away.
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One word answer: NO
We all think we know what the world is all about and oh, what "LOVE" is about and how it can overcome everything...gf, HIV is not a "risk for love" you want to take with someone who cheated on you TWICE (that you know of) already!
I mean...pshhh, the guy waits till he is handed a death sentence (albeit a slow one) before coming back to tell you he loves you? Pfff, maybe you are the only one who would be softhearted enough to believe it.
Thing is, not wanting to give your life for this douche does NOT mean you are selfish, ok? Let me reassure you that.
Walk away...
Like another poster said...one drunken misstep and you could have it too.
Thing is not about whether he has HIV or not...its that he has cheated before, he didnt care enough about you then...or your health and safety...so why do you owe anything to him now?
And I have to ask the same question as everyone else...whats the story with your dating life that you need to consider an cheater with HIV as your top candidate?
Be strong, simply say NO the way he couldn't when it came to staying faithful!
Case closed.
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TO the OP, My answer if it happens to me is as long as he's been honest to me from the beggining of our relationship and we both LOVE each other then i'll stay..
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