It's been 3 weeks. I still can't get over him...

Its called "obsessing because I have f-all else going on in life".


Seriously, take up wakeboarding, running, canoeing...get out there, off your a** and live a little, that should stop you from spending all your spare time obsessing over someone you only met a few times. Life goes on...think of life like a busy restaurant, people come in and out of the restaurant, some may not ever come back again. Waiters bustle in and out, bus boys remove dirty dishes, there is always something going on.


This person came into your life and now they are out...either get on with ordering some more food, eat what you got or pay your bill and head home for some sleep and peace of mind.

Wish they had a *Like* button on here.

@OP: My gut says he's a married man with children. He treats you like a slut.

My advice: Stay away from him. Dont waste your time remembering him or indulging yourself in self-pity. Learn to stand tall. Learn to respect yourself and to respect other people's marriage. A real good and successful man will find you if you respect yourself enough that you won't break other people's marriage and family.

"staring at you" aren't you the poster who is always on here giving it a bit of a whine from time to time and its almost ALWAYS the same thing? Over and over and over about how you got dumped by yet another guy who was really not good for you?


I mean, there is obviously a pattern of you either picking all the wrong kind of guys or you coming on here and having a pointless suk about nothing of consequence.


Am I off the mark here?


Maybe you could do with going for some therapy to sort that shizz out, and I am saying this because sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind, you know, with your self-esteem issues, you could do with some help so that you don't waste your time going nowhere fast.


The other problem could be this: Some folks thrive on drama. Its like their lives aren't fun without dating someone who treats them like crap, dumps them and picks them up over and over, cheats on them, has an alcohol problem or a drug problem.


You think, "Dayum, wuman! Get a hold of yourself already!" Stop dating idiots and stop being one!


But nah, its like a hamster wheel up in 'ere! Round and round and round we go.

@"staring at you": click this link and listen carefully to the words. The message will make you get over self pity and get over him. He's not worth it anyway.


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nk1g6jJTsXY


City girls just seem to find out early

How to open doors with just a smile

A rich old man

And she won't have to worry

She'll dress up all in lace and go in style


Late at night a big old house gets lonely

I guess every form of refuge has its price

And it breaks her heart to think her love is

Only given to a man with hands as cold as ice


So she tells him she must go out for the evening

To comfort an old friend who's feelin' down

But he knows where she's goin' as she's leavin'

She is headed for the cheatin' side of town


You can't hide your lyin' eyes

And your smile is a thin disguise

I thought by now you'd realize

There ain't no way to hide your lyin eyes


On the other side of town a boy is waiting

with fiery eyes and dreams no one could steal

She drives on through the night anticipating

'Cause he makes her feel the way she used to feel


She rushes to his arms,

They fall together

She whispers that it's only for awhile

She swears that soon she'll be comin' back forever

She pulls away and leaves him with a smile


You can't hide your lyin' eyes

And your smile is a thin disguise

I thought by now you'd realize

There ain't no way to hide you lyin' eyes


She gets up and pours herself a strong one

And stares out at the stars up in the sky

Another night, it's gonna be a long one

She draws the shade and hangs her head to cry


She wonders how it ever got this crazy

She thinks about a boy she knew in school

Did she get tired or did she just get lazy?

She's so far gone she feels just like a fool


My, oh my, you sure know how to arrange things

You set it up so well, so carefully

Ain't it funny how your new life didn't change things

You're still the same old girl you used to be


You can't hide your lyin eyes

And your smile is a thin disguise

I thought by now you'd realize

There ain't no way to hide your lyin' eyes

There ain't no way to hide your lyin' eyes

Honey, you can't hide your lyin' eyes

Go running for at least 45 minutes to an hour. That worked for me when I was younger and love sick. The endorphins relax you and help you sleep.

And by the way 3 weeks is nothing. For many people it's around six months if they're really smitten.

Well, exercise is a good idea, and Drunkenenss is a popular option (but has side effects). Most importantly, avoid starting a new relationship "on the rebound"


Thinking out loud - she "only met him a few times" and cannot get over him ? Wow, I'd like to know what magical powers of attraction this guy has.

castingap......


"Wo wo yea yea

I love you more than I can say"


That's Leo Sayer (he of the tight trousers!) not the Eagles!

staring at you: look very carefully around you, or go to LKF, see all the women over there, they're all beautiful, sexy, young, no problem to go to bed anytime and with anyone. He won't waste one second of his time dreaming of loving you. If he's singing, this is the song he sings for you ...


Please release me let me go

for I don’t love you anymore

To waste our lives would be a sin

Release me and let me love again


I have found a new love dear

And I will always want her near

her lips are warm while yours are cold

Release me and let me love again


Please release me can’t you see

you’d be A fool to cling to me

To live a lie would bring us pain

So release me and let me love again


Let me go ... let me go ... ooh ... ooh ... ooh ...

If this is for real, I'm a woman too.