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Vulvic
19 yrs ago
I don't think hitting men is the way to win a b/f.
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shaq
19 yrs ago
Well, back to the question, I think it's true that most men prefer ladies younger than them. Indeed, where I come from, old and well-to-do men go in for very young ladies.
Presently, however, it's also true that some of us look beyond age; preference is given to other socially-motivated issues.
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I have always gone out with blokes older than me, usually by about 10 yrs or so.
This has not changed as I have got older.
Perhaps you have that 'desperate' look about you. You often see a group of women done up to the nines, adjusting their hair and clothes and scanning a crowd on the lookout for 'potentials'. These are usually the groups that men tend to steer clear of.
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shaq
19 yrs ago
I guess most of the times it has to do with a guy's personal needs too, and how an older lady carry herself.
For me, I think (most) older women are more caring and mature/independent-minded. That's not to say younger ladies are absolutely opposite in character to older ladies...... So, young ladies, hold your fire :P.
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I just had this conversation over the weekend, about young women vs older women. I am in my mid thirties and prefer to date women fairly close to my age.
I know a guy, about 35 who is dating a woman 19. I can't imagine that... what do they have in common? What do they talk about? Yes, she is very physically attractive, but that only lasts for so long in my book. Eventually, you have to have a decent conversation... or it just gets boring!
For me, it's less about age and more about stage of life. Women in their thirties typically have a bit more life experience, are more sorted in their career and know what they are looking for (and not looking for) in a man. I find those characteristics much more attractive than pure youth.
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Not ALL men prefer younger women.
When I was 36 I had a fling with a woman of over 50. She ended it.
In fact I have had relationships with three women more than 10 years my senior. And one 14 years my junior.
I am now married to someone slightly younger, but my first wife was slightly older.
Not ALL men prefer younger women.
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shaq
19 yrs ago
Tigerbay -- a living example of a man who looks beyond age; go man :-).
Yeah, age is just a state of the mind. Really, when two people get along, age (difference) is nothing at all and, yeah, not all men prefer younger women. At least, some of us don't ... hehe :D.
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You're only as young as the woman you feel!
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Imagine how I feel. I've aged about 10 years, lol!
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Or a good cheese, some may say!
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Oh, Hoyo, not every bloke is a sad caricature of Peter Stringfellow.
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shaq
19 yrs ago
AD & Hoyo >> True, but not with every man. The generalization here, to me, is unfortunate. Some men do see grace and beauty in older women too. Let's accept that. Afterall, beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder, so the 'wise' say.
Men are visual, but eye-catching visibility is not found on younger women only. I tell you, some older women have excellent body and can present themselves astonishingly well; that will be eye-catching and 'emotion stirrer' in a man too.
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yes, there must be men who see women beyond the age, however, let's face it, majority of the men will prefer younger girls.
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Hoyo, Spacedust.
You are free to do what you want, and your world view is your world view, and valid as others are.Be true to your self, but do not presume to talk for all or the majority of men.
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AD
Based on the evidence, I have to agree with Bear about the scorch marks.
I don't know if it was/is intentional. But all your many posts over the last few days have a distinct undercurrent of anger towards men.
Go back and read over them agian if you don't believe me.
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Then why the hate fest???
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tigerbay, as a woman at her early 30s, I so much would hope men will be attracted to older women, but that's the reality I've seen. But tell you the truth, I really don't give a toss, i love myself at my 30s much more than when i was 20 something. I can afford things I desire unlike I was skint at all time at my 20s and I don't get heartbroken as I used to be. that's why i never have a problem telling people my age when being asked.
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Space dust.
you love yourself more, and you are more stable emotionally and in many other areas.
Hey that is why older people are more attractive to many of us. The lust thing is less than 10% of any deeper relationship.
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Space dust,
I know it is the reality of what you see. But where have you been looking? Where all the single people hang out? Where all the serial daters hang out?
There are a lot of people who you just would not notice. Boring old farts like me who are happy, don't go out so you wouldn't see us LOL
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Tigerbay, don't you have a job? I've lived over 30 frigging years, there is guys all over, I work with both men and women and when I am out, they are everywhere, alright? But I care how much I love myself than a guy loves me
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shaq
19 yrs ago
Tykey >> There is always one guy out there appreciating how a lady looks (and not how young she is), and that's all that matters. Hold on tight :D.
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actually Tykey, I intended to post similar thread but then I expected Ed might delete it... I agree with you
so for those over 30s who are attracted to Chinese blokes, it could be hard
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hey!!! was my posting deleted too?! >:-/ grrrr
ED! hellooooo! why were tykey's and my posts deleted?
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tykey, i've dated both western and chinese blokes, and as far as my experience goes, western guys (at least those I've dated) never seem to have issues with the age thing, mostly it's the chinese blokes who wouldn't swallow the fact that the girls are older than they are. nothing racist and I am not generalising, it's just an observation.
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lucky you, my friends and I unfortunately or fortunately love chinese blokes but they run as soon as they know you are over 30s as they presume you are looking for marriage
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huh! I happened to know a Japanese bloke who has a similar list of gf qaulification.. hehe... LOL
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so jimmylee888, what was your personal experiece, be subtle or Ed will delete you... : )
in 15mins i'll be out for 2006 celebration - oh well, one more year older then - and i love it!
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Jimmy, it's true that men in HK are in the minority these days....how sad
But congrats with the marriage plan!
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First few dates?
In UK you scare thel life aout of people if you use the 'L' word in the first few months. But wait longer before useing the 'M' or 'B' words.
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Either that or put you off your stoke.
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My g/f is 16 years younger than me. At first I had a problem with that, but she had none and I end up changing my mind too. I was even looking for a woman olther than me. Well it turns out that she even is more mature than the most women in my age, so it looks realy age plays no role.
Just want to say that now I see some of the advantages dating such a younger woaman, first of all makes me fell younger too. To finish just leave here some toughts from Jack Niconson that I also share, "Younger women travel light", "nothing compares to the uncomplicated love of a younger woman".
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I had this talk with my female friends the other day that men over 30 are highly seeked nowadays. This is largely because the society encourages men to be older than their felmale encouters plus biologically speaking, women tend to mature earlier. Since a lot of men would probably be married or attached at their 30s (or they are players or having commitment issues), guys over 30s and available will thus become such a demand. We really can't compared cases with women over 30s Vs guys over 30s.
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As a matter of fact, I don't really think there is so much an issue to attract guys younger than you as long as you show them that you are comfortable with who you are and well mature enough to handle emotinal or financial stress. The difficulty I figure is to find the guys older than you and available at the same time or you are stuck with those 20 something guys, therefore, I see it's more of my personal issue that I couldn't handle being with someone younger than me over 4 years or so.
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Being Devils advocate again.
How much of the stituation has arrisen because in the more traditional (sexist perhaps) social web, a man in his early 20's is not yet 'marketable' or seen as 'a good catch'. When 30 he has his career mapped out (so no risk of getting a potential bum), he has his mortgage on the way. So no wory about where to live. In short he is 'ready' for marriage. Where the guy of 20 is perhaps seen as a bigger risk.
Compare a woman of 20 something who is already 'marketable'.
Before you shoot me down, remember a lot of many of Western societies' rules were based on this sort of bul_lsh_it.
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lulu
19 yrs ago
Tykey> hi i am back. Seems that every single person feels a bit lonely, especially during the holidays. No worries, dear, I am 39, got no kids, no boyfriends and no marriages. This is just a phrase we need to go through...then it will be alright. Do not think of marriages as you think it's the time to do that. It's worst if you choose the wrong person to get marry...or even to have kids.
Go for some holidays and look around the world. I went to some simple and poor places last week, and i think we here are so lucky to have what we got,so, treasure life, dun depend your happiness on other people, especially men.
I enjoy my freedom to go around and there is still a lot of other single people as well! You never alone! :)
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