Disliking your overly presumptious co-worker

cara's memory is probably as good as the helpful advice she gives on a wide variety of topics. not that i always agree but i can always see her logic and understand where the advice comes from. i can't really see how somebody can post a message asking if 'anyone' has had such and such an experience and then get upset when 'anyone' replies. are you asking for advice or simple ratification of your opinion on something?

take some time to get to know the co-worker and what motivates them before trying to militate people against them because you see them as a threat.

and before you ask me not to reply again, don't worry i won't, it's not worth the effort.

Expat2006 you're very unthankful. Maybe that's one reason why you get much trouble from workmates. You might be an as*h*le you just don't know it.

expat2006, if you continually find yourself in this situation, then, most likely, the problem is you.

You could tell your boss how you feel.


Then, if there are examples of her doing something wrong or not efficiently, you can bring those to the attention of your boss.

Interesting that you ask for advice but would prefer that any history or previous posts should be disregarded. Surely some background is helpful in assessing the situation and catering advice appropriately. Clearly you are just looking for someone to agree with you and make you feel better, critique is hard to take but helps us grow? I am not sure if you have noticed but the majority of the responses here have been critique and you would rather get on Cara's case because she is posting something that can only be considered extremely relevant. Grow up Expat2006 and take a good look at yourself, maybe the problem is you.

expat2006, it happens a lot, especially in large organisations. However, your comments about your co-worker are rather offensive and disrespectful of her, and it makes you sound arrogant. I really hope you don't mind me saying this. Thing is, it isn't you that is paying her salary, it is her boss. She's still around so obviously your boss thinks that she's doing her job? And anyway, even if she wasn't doing her job, it's your boss' loss, not yours. Instead of worrying about what she's like, why not concentrate on your own job and see how you can contribute to your organisation?

My dad was pretty much like you. He was too arrogant and couldn't get along with anyone. He always felt he was better than all his co-workers and the way he spoke about them sounded like he really thought they were idiots. There were times when he'd rather work on a project himself and told all his workers to go home. He was very, very depressed because he couldn't get along with anyone and there were two occasions when he walked out on his job. In the end, he took early retirement - in his early fifties! (and driving us mad because of his temper and his comments about our lives and how we are doing it all wrong.

I always think that it is best not to judge others if you don't want others to judge you. Don't badmouth them either if you don't want others to badmouth you. And if you can go a step further, why not be nice to her and try to see the positive side of her?

Expat2006,


You came here in this group to seek for advice. Well, adivces are take it or leave it. If advice are taken you should be grateful to that person who gave you that advice. If you leave it still be grateful, for who who knows someday in a similar situation you can use that advice. But on your comments, it is you who is the one with a problem not your colleague. You are unthankful. My 18 years as an HR analyst,if you are with me in my company you are a rotten tomato that worthy to be thrown away. Hate people coming to me telling me the attitude of the their co-worker or their mistake, or they are not doing their job well. For you know what, you have time checking on them and not get focus in your job. I like those quiet staff that does their job in a timely manner or the way it should be. And during their wee hour they can chit chat with colleagues ( productive chats, be it their personal or job related). I hate those ones like you badmouthing their fellows.If you think she is not capable and that you are her /his immediate supervisor then you have the right to make a formal report to your boss. Make your judgement and then up to your boss what he/she does next for in that you did your duty and thats all. I agree with elguapo and GemmaW here be nice to her after all it'sm just work, work why stress yourself with it? Don't see the dark side of her, as GemmaW says see the positive side of her. And hey say sorry to Cara, her input is useful. You know what arrogance will fail you, just be humble. No man is an island you need other people to finish a job. Seriously take the example from elaguapo. Be good to others.

well you certainly come across like the biggest a**h*** in a long while....hard to judge you otherwise from all that you said so far. if i were your boss, you would be gone in no time