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Red Setter
20 yrs ago
Hi
Recently I quit my a job as director for a european company with responsibility for 11 countries. I made the personal decision to quit because I was tired, short tempered, paranoid, panicky, increasingly unmotivated, unable to concenytrate and, worse, cutting myself off from my friends. Quietly suffering deep/acute stress.
So to my question... I want to deal with my stress once and for all... I dont want to spend a huge amount of money, because it's not a money but a life thing.
In terms of coping with stress and learning how to relax my mind, what are your opinions regarding
1). Tai Qi (who should I go to in HK? Who is the best Tai Qi Master?)
2). Transcendental Meditation
3). Other ?
[By the way advising me to have a message and keep fit are not the responses I am looking for]
Determined to deal with stress once and for all
TIA
Red Setter
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Stress is not a situation, but a reaction to a situation. Therefore, in dealing with stress you need to understand why such a reaction is forthcoming, and then you can sort out what to do about it. A number of things will help:
1. See a psychologist - what is your personality etc
2. NLP - neuro-linguistic programming is an excellent way of resetting your internal responses to a situation
3. Balance in life. Yes exercise, but also taking the time to smell the roses, as they say. So looking at culture - music, art, sports - and developing those skills in yourself, and practrising them. Going tomovies and the theatre.
4. Tai Chi is a good way of symptomatically resolving problems, but does not address the fundamental issues. Same for yoga - also highly recommended.
5. Cognitive behavioural therapy may be suggested by some prtactitioners.
For good psychologists, check out ReSource the counselling centre, or ask you doctor for recommendations.
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I think the better way is share or ventilate with your friends. Like psychologist, just help you to find out your problem but you need to solve by yourself at the end point.
So no need to waste money to talk with guys.
Instead, relax and do not think you are in the sick role. Go to have drink with friends, hightea or dinner in some place that you have no time to go before.
Join some classes to meet new friends.
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hkkm
20 yrs ago
Tai chi and yoga can help with stress (I do both of them). But if you're not particularly coordinated or flexible, or you don't like feeling foolish while you're learning how to do it, they may not be for you.
I've been doing both tai chi and yoga once a week for a couple of years now. It tooks me about a year before I was comfortable enough with the tai chi to feel more or less "relaxed" while I was doing it, and I still haven't gotten the breathing right. Obviously if you do it every day you should learn much faster!
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There are around 12 internal system that need balancing through exercise, nutrition and lifestyle. Continued stress will deplete most if not all in a downward spiral leading to adrenal burnout and poor health.
A slowly but sure way to rebuild your health would be to indentify which of the internal systems are out of balance and use tai chi, chi gong, yoga, walking - low intensity exercise to stimulate blood, energy or chi through those organs and systems. For example belly breathing through the nose while walking - four steps inhale, 1 step natural pause, 4 steps exhale is a calming walking meditation that does not cost any money and builds the parasympathetic system (the sympathetic system is activated as a reaction to stress not unlike being chased by a lion all day).
Each of the 12 internal systems can be rebuilt by a targeted exercise and nutritional eating or supplementation.
A good exercise for you to do would be to smile and laugh alot more.
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Hi,
My name is Nima and I'm writing on behalf of pangea. we are a Health and Well being company located in central and are currently looking to put on some meditation classes. If you are interested in instructing meditation classes at our club pls let me know by email at nima@pangea.com.hk or call me on 51939320, Thank you kindly.
Warm regards,
Nima
www.pangea.com.hk
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Before referring you a way, I'd like to ask a question: why under the same pressure, some people can handle and some can't? Why when you don't feel well or you are depressed, but you go for a western medical check-up, according to the results doctors tell you it's no problem with you? According to Tradtional Chinese Medicine, if you are not feeling well, there must be something wrong with the organs. Because different moods orignate from different organs: happiness - heart, sadness - lung, depression - gall blader.....If the relavant organ is ill then you must have relevant emotions. Yet because the health levels are different, the pressure levels that people can bear are different too. Would you like to try a method which you only need to do 2 minutes /day on your own? It drives away the bad emotion and also keeps you a good figure all your life. I teach this but I'm in Beijing. Hope I can help.
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There's many more methods than you mentioned, and it's hard to find the right one, since there are so many and there is so much advertisement.
Also for most of the methods you have someone work on you, and you will always be dependent on that or a similar person. Could be quite an interesting journey though, I myself tried at least 20 different methods to see what they are about.
For a start I would recommend you lie under the hands of a Feldenkrais Practitioner, learn about yourself and what you need, and then take it from there. It's western, it's scientific. I 'm not sure if there is a practitioner in HK though, I just know of one in Shanghai and one in Taiwan.
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