Horrible Illness

I'm so sorry to hear of your distress. you sound as though you have tried all traditional western medical services, with at least some success although not 100%. There are many alternative therapies which may help. To assess which would be best for you, is it possible to make an appointment with me?


Susan Jamieson

Specialist in Integrative medicine

www.drjamieson.com

www.hhphk.com

If you live in the past and your past memories, you're going to get what the past gives you - bad experience. Be strong and confident, no one can make you truly happy and satisfied if you dont make the effort to. It always must start with you!! The next time you see your sister, beat her to a pulp until she's paralyzed and can't bother you. LOL!!!!!!

Dont be all weak and whimpy girl! and stop feeling sorry for yourself. You yourself are able to point out what your strengths and weaknesses are so why cant you go with your strengths??!!

Hi Extreme Lonely,


Depression is indeed terrible decease as we don't have instant medication to let it go. I think your deperession came all together triggered by postnatal deperession.


Probably you need to heal and treat well all the wound you just sealed in the past.


I don't think you are looking back your past or having self pitty for that but just through lots of therapy or consultation you needed to look back carefully and gave deep thought about it....


When I had depression, all I did was staying home, knitting, watching TV and my mother thought I was a bit crazy.... It was very hard to go out at that time. I was feeling like I couldn't breath, I didn't want to look at mirror... But I know I should be doing somethign different. So all I could do was to tell my self that next year will be different "(It was autumn so I was giving myself 2-3months to be depressed) Every night when I couldn't sleep because my heart ache, I told my self 'next year will be different, everything will be changed'


Probably mine was milder than yours and it is very good that you are seeking for lots of help now. And probably it is better good idea to take some time off... you shouldn't be stressed out. You know if you have been accumulating all the pains in the past probably better to give reasonable time to heal it for the future.


Please hung on there, one day you will realize you are completely free.


Love

Dear Extreme Lonely,


I am sorry to hear what you are going through...

I came across your post as I too suffer from depression... I was very ill in 2005 and almost died and it all started with "post traumatic stress" which brought on panic attacks, severe anxiety and also depression. My anxiety is now under control but I still suffer with the depression.

My boyfriend of 2 years has been with me through the entire thing and has seen me at my worst. Much like your husband with you. I too have times when I act comepletely out of control without knowing that I am actualloy doing it and later when I have calmed down, my bf will comfort me.

it is very very hard on him I know and it must be the same for your husband. He sounds like a very supportive man and you are lucky to have him. you must make sure you speak with him and let him know how you are feeling so he can try and understand... I know noone can understand unless they are going through the same thing, but you have to at least let him try.


I know there are days it is hard to get out of bed and hard to go to work but Im afraid it just has to be done. You must try and always be positive and remember there are sooooo many people out there who suffer like we do so we are not alone.


I am on a high dosage of prozac and have been for about a year now. It seems to be helping but it has taken a while to get it right.

I think the main thing is to avoid stress in your life... your sister sounds terrible and selfish and you should stay away from her... you definitely dont need that stress...

I tend to run away from stress in my family, I wont speak to my sister for a few days or my mum. my dad either... its hard and you feel guilty... but you must try and avoid stress...try some yoga,meditation,relaxation techniques( you can buy cd's that calm you down)


Most important, you must be open with your husband. Let him know that you appreciate him for being there for you and you know its not hard, but its not something that you can control.


perhaps concentrating on looking after your boy will help keep your mind in the right place.


and if you ever have "bad thoughts" you MUST tell someone immediately... I get them sometimes and I tell my boyfriend... he hates it, but we just lie together until ive calmed down.


I hope I have helped... i know I rambled a bit... but still I hope it helps to know that your not alone.


Take care,


S

You are ready to embrace your new beginnings. since you are a new creation.


NEW BEGINNINGS/SEASON


Isaiah 43:18-19


18 "Forget the former things;

do not dwell on the past.


19 See, I am doing a new thing!

Now it springs up; do you not perceive it?

I am making a way in the desert

and streams in the wasteland. (NIV)

hi,

i am a filipina and sufferd something like yours too. it started when i was 27 years old and had two miscarraiges at that time. and then the doctor found out i have a cyst in my left ovary and need to be taken out. with the help of my australian boyfriend i got through of all that bad feelings etc.looking back now, was thinking that what a horrible life i had. it made my life misserable and those people sorrounds me. i am now 33 years old still no baby, fortunately my boyfriend is still there, for better or for worse.



i think you should go out more often, do something, like what i did.

in order to get back in track again, i went to thailand and did kickboxing!


i will pray for you and i hope you will overcome all the obstacles that may cross on your way. whatever happens always remember, you have a child that needs you. and a husband too. do not let the bad things happend to u in the past ruins and rules your life now.

I really recommend you start doing regular exercise, a half hour walk in the morning with some happy music on your ipod which makes you sing along or want to dance. I had depression related to a medical problem, so nothing like yours, but it was devastating to me at the time. I found that when my friend made me get out and exercise every day it really started to help me feel better and sleep better. Just start out small, consistency is the key. Also try to eat well and drink lots of water.


Good luck, sounds like you have a great husband and a lovely little boy too! I'm sure since you really want to get out of this rut, you will. Maybe take up a hobbie too...something social with other people, even something simple like a cooking class, you might be surprised and find you enjoy yourself.

Hi Ms Lonely!


I feel you need help professionally if you think no family members nor friends can help. I see Kathleen Wong in central who is a counsellor and gifted with Angel guidance. Call to make an appointment 2523 8396.


Hope this helps!

To XTREME LONELY,


Glad to hear those words from you!!! That's a good start. when the going gets tough, jjust sit down and look at your son, hold him close to you, get a strenght from him. he is the only one you could say that is yours, yours alone, he is the reason that you need to be strong. there is nothing, no one in this world could ever destroy you, except yourself.


Hang on there, take one step at a time. just slowly, eventually everything will be fine. trust yourself, trust the love between you, your son and your husband. God bless you, your family and home.

To Extreme Lonely,

We'll this is one reality inlfe which very hard to understand and take. Your own blood taking on you. I had the same when i was young but it motivated to move on my own instead. Proved myself I can manage myself without them. And now I' have done it. And seemed to ahve overcome all the fear on them. Besides. now they're ashamed of what they've done to me.


So my advise, stay strong and hold on. Focus on the people who cares for you and appreciate what they have for you. This way you'll build yourself up again. Then walk past those who have been hard on you, without fear and heads up. You start rebuilding yourself where you have strongest point, your loving husband, your sweet little kid, friends and those giving you encouraging thought in here. Start going around with heads up . . . . . Fight off those who tries to put you down. Don't allow them to do it again . . . You have to fight it off.

Hypnotherapy is very efficient to deal with depression and negative thought patterns. Julian Willm at Balance Health is good (tel: 2530-3315). Good luck!

Hi there,


Just want to say, thanks for sharing your story. Don't worry, there are many of us out there who have been discriminated against by those who are supposed to protect us..not destroy us! Realise that they have not upheld their responsibility in anyway and it's somehow their addiction to see in you a mirror as someone close and vulnerable. They hate themselves, though they would never admit such a thing and they retaliate by hitting or abusing the mirror.. but usually when no one else sees. A bit like a closet alcoholic.


It's hard to turn it on it's head. But I think respect from those outside the family, and especially if it is seen by those in the family can make them feel very uncomfortable and they will try to force you back into your supplication. But if you put to work some of the 'positives' you have learnt from your experiences, e.g. humility.. and work with people or kids who can glean some benefit from you, the shoe will eventually move onto the other foot and you'll hopefully realise that spiritually and in mentality for the greater good of all, you way further ahead than they will be in this lifetime!


I mean that's their negativity, right? Not yours (no matter how they package it!)

X

a husband of mine is such a worst person, imagine he always thinks that i have mental problem...he wants me to get cured very soon. he doesn't know the the emotions is bearing is hard for me especially to my mind. every time we have argument he always say somethong wrong with me, i'm crazy person...blah blah blah, he put the blame everything to me. what can i do, since i got this deepression, i'm living in the darkness. my life sucks up. sometimes i just want to hope to die, no point living in this world when no one understands you. i'm under medication, sadly not useful...i dont like to meet one of them...i'm losing interest, the topic they discuss with me its bored me @_@. at this moment i'm full of hate to my husband...the reason he changed a lot when i have deepression. instead of supporting me he puts the blame on me everything. he doesn't show love to me anymore. when he works a new company - he started to get busy, out of business - 2 weeks, one weeks or 3 days...then after sometimes out of town again...i'm feeling more desperate...i tell to myself...what is my life now? do i have to continue? we have a baby but in my situation right now i can't guarantee that things will gets to normal easily. without support from the person you loved, its hard..really its hard......my husband does not know how i feels at all....he pulling me down...the most saddest thing, when i'm about to stand up...there is not support from him...he puts me down.....i guess some people who desn't have deepression wont never understand it....my husband love dissappeared and doesn't show love towards me anymore... :( i hate this deepression....