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chanel2007
16 yrs ago
is it possible to contract chlamydia if the wife and husband were both virgins when got married, and NEVER had any affairs ?
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Not possible. It is an sexually transmitted infection. Here is some information about it. http://www.cdc.gov/std/Chlamydia/STDFact-Chlamydia.htm
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thank you for your info. I have researched endlessly, and I am fully aware of what this is. However. the problem and question is, I have NEVER had sex with anyone except my husband, and I am 101% sure my husband is the same. However, I just got a test back that I have chlamydia. This is not possible. I know many will say, one of us must have been unfaithful.
I am hoping for some answers that will put aside that fact. assuming I am sure we both have NEVER had any other partners in our life, what possible reasons or explanation for my test results as such ?
i have discomfort in urination, and burning. (mild). I also had a little bit of itchiness, very mild too. No discharge. Symptoms over 3 weeks, almost 1 month now.
I have been tested for everything from blood, to urine and Pap smear...etc. Everything came back normal.
This is very detrimental to my husband and I. Really confused.
Thanks for any helpful info and answers.
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bing2
16 yrs ago
just ask your doctor if there is any other way contracting chlamydia. your doc will tell you and you dont have to be embarrased. this is an important issue for your family, should not get advice from a public thread, agree?
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thank you Peppa01 for sharing your experience.
Bing2, thank you as well.
I do have many doctors, and books, and websites to read about the "standard" info and textbook references about chlamydia. Problem is, we fit NONE of the info and causes, and possiblities listed.
My doctor doesn't understand either... but I understand from her point of view, she will always have a doubt because I guess all husbands will deny that they ever did have an affair right?
I do know my husband, and trust him, he would NEVER do this. AND... this is EVEN if assuming if he EVER did..... he wouldn't be stupid enough to jeopardize all that we have, and our health, and family... etc.... he wouldn't have unprotected sex ever.
I am very distraught, disturbed, and confused. I don't know what to do. I did take the meds, not feeling any better, and the dr wants me to retest next week.
My husband will get the test done too.
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It can be contracted by either oral, anal or vaginal sex. So, if both of you have been virgins but ANYONE engaged in unprotected oral or anal sex, you can get it. Don't have to see a doctor. Just google it. But see a doctor anyway if it makes you feel better.
http://www.cdc.gov/std/Chlamydia/STDFact-Chlamydia.htm#HowGet
There are lots of people who are unaware of how dangerous unprotected oral sex really is.
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bing2
16 yrs ago
hi chanel,
i dont know why but by reading your postings i got a sense that you are actually doubting your husband although you always said he would never cheated on you......i hope i am wrong but this is what i sensed from your postings......
it is a good idea to have your husband tested and will give you some answers. if he is negative you shall rest assured it didnt come from him.....good luck....
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selda
16 yrs ago
you can get it from any kind of sexual activity, even without penetration.
When you said you were both virgins, you mean neither you nor your husband had ever been intimate with someone else before marriage?
Hard to believe, unless you are both very religious.
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I don't doubt my husband. However, I need a logical and reasonable explanation for this.
Selda- yes, we have NEVER been with anyone else prior to our relationship. We met in highschool, dated, and got married, and we have been very happy, and have a wonderful family together.
I am looking for anyone with experience similar to this, or anyone can tell me how they could have gotten this, but not by sexual ....
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bing2
16 yrs ago
hi chanel,
if you dont doubt your husband and if no one is cheating, you should just forget about it, take the medicine and get cured. chylamydia is actually the easiest std to get rid off. you can be cured 100% with anti biotics. why worry so much. you and your husband are living a cinderella love story. why be bothered so much with a sickeness that can be cured like a cold....
good luck..
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It is sexually transmitted only.
The other possibility is a "false positive" test result(lab error/specimen mixup/test FP etc)
The urinary DNA test is what you should request for confirmatory testing
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Did he have a STAG party before the wedding?
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Hi chanel
I had a chlamydia also a year ago...just like you I've been in medication for a month but it useless it didnt cure. I have wasted my time and money I've been seeing a different doctor before they prescribe the same medication...Until my friend who's working in a health company she intruduce one of their product and i tried it and amazingly after i took that med my chlamydia never came back and she lectured me about chlamydia...if i knew it earlier i should not waste my money and time keep on coming back to the doctors before...Well am happy now bcoz i am free from chlamydia.. I am telling you even you took antibiotic it doesnt help bcoz i've been there i did took antibiotic many times. even i ask my doctor about chlamydia but they cannot explain it what chlamydia really is.... If you want to get rid off your chlamydia don't hesitate to contact me..maybe i can help you introduce the products that cured my chlamydia...
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I am feeling better today. The antibiotic I got though doesn't ONLY cover Chlamydia... but I do feel better. Is it possible I had another kind of infection, and this medicine did it for me ? Not 100%, but 90% better.
my husband DID not have a stag party that involved anything like that.
We have been together over 17 years now.
I had a talk with him, he will take the test, he says he will prove it to me.
However, this is really straining and putting tension in my marriage.
He asked me why I don't trust him 100%? Why would I doubt him?
I feel so guilty and horrible.
I am NOT asking info about Chlamydia... I am fully aware of what it is and how it's transmitted. I am asking for others who had similar experience that they were diagnosed with it, but based on lifestyle and their history.... concludes it's impossible to get it.
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Do you want to hear it?
Well here it is. Your husband has had sex with another woman. And he has caught a sexual transmitted disease and passed it on to you. Those are the facts. Face them.
Its up to you to do what you will about this. Pretend it didnt happen and life goes on. Or face reality.
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mmoe
16 yrs ago
Right on.I agree with Innocence. Wake Up girl! That's the problem with women who are in denial. They will blame it on everything under the sun except their husband's sexual organs and physicall needs.
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Well, the doubt is mutual then isnt' it? He can just as well think and ask whether I have been unfaithful to him since I am the one with the diagnosis and symptoms. However, he says he trusts me, he believes the test is wrong/doctor is wrong than to believe I have been unfaithful.
I know I have never had anyone else. So, if his tests come back negative, then I know my test must haven been wrong, because I couldn't have possibly contracted this any other way then.
Thanks.
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There is a strong possibility that you have been miss-diagnosed. I had a similar experience as expressed by Peppa01. Shortly after childbirth my wife developed a urinary track infection. This is a common occurrence. Before we were aware of her condition I contacted the infection myself. Went to the hospital and was informed that I had chlamydia. I know for a fact that I wasn’t involved outside our marriage. My wife was far to busy caring for our newborn. Doctors are human and can make mistakes and lab tests are not always 100% perfect. If you and husband trust each other go with your instincts. Don’t let this ruin your relationship.
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selda
16 yrs ago
When you are diagnosed with an STD, usually doctors want to test your partner as well. It's standard procedure. Because if your husband has it, then he can re-infect you once you get rid of it.
I don't understand why your doctor didn't immediately test your husband and then prescribe antibiotics to both of you.
It doesn't matter who got it first, but chances are that you both have it.
Men usually show no symptoms.
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UTI is a different thing, but thanks dadda for your advice. UTI can be recurring again and again, but not related to sex at all, some are, but can be unrelated totally.
Selda, my husband was given the antibiotics right away, we both got it from the dr. However, my husband refuses to take it, because he didn't get tested yet, and he says, he has no symptoms, and he says if he takes it, I will assume he did have it, and because of the meds, he 's ok. He says he wants to get tested, prove to me he's NEGATIVE. So he's going tomorrow. We will know soon enough.
My husband held me tight, looked at me, and said he has NEVER been with any other woman, I am the only one, he says he will prove to me the diagnosis is wrong.
if his test is negative, and I know I have never been with anyone else in my life, then my test must have been wrong.
Will soon find out.
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2 possibilities:
1. Your husband had sex with another woman and caught the disease and passed it to you. He is deeply afraid of you finding this out and him having to admit it and the damage it will do to your marriage. He is now going to the ridiculous measure of trying to claim the test result must be wrong in order to hide his own infidelity.
2. You yourself had sex with another man and caught the disease and you have blotted it out of your own memory out of guilt.
Since #2 is most highly unlikely, that leaves #1 as the obvious culprit. But get realistic, the idea that you caught this from a toilet seat or a medical instrument is absurd, you are desperately grasping for a way to avoid the confrontation with your husband. He is a spineless liar and a coward who will probably never admit his own misdeed so you have to decide for yourself whether you want to live with a man with whom you have no trust, or whether you would rather separate and find someone else who maybe won't do the same thing (or maybe will). Good luck!!
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Question: Chlamydia, can it be acquired other than through sexual contact, ie as it is a bacteria can it be acquired from hotpools, unsterile medical procedures (papsmears) etc AND Can an persons without symptoms who carry the bacteria (long term Chlamydia infection lying dormant) suddenly turn into an acute infection, or can an acute infection only occur from a recent infection? Thank you.
Answer: Chlamydia is an organism that has very specific requirements that allow it to exist in the cervix, urethra, and fallopian tube. (It also can also infect the cornea of the eye.) Because of these specific requirements, chlamydia cannot live outside the body, such as on toilet seats, bath towels or bed linens. If there was a droplet of body fluid containing chlamydia, and this were left on a towel or toilet seat, then it is conceivable that if it were not there too long (did not dry out), then it might be possible to have the organism transmitted to another person. However, just because chlamydia touches your skin or buttocks, this is not sufficient for you to get the infection. The organism would have to come in contact with suitable body tissue such as the cervix, urethra or cornea of the eye to survive.
Chlamydia cannot be transmitted in hotpools because of the extensive dilution that would occur in the water, and the chlorine present in most tubs. Pap smears would also not cause the infection since a new collection spatula is used for each patient and thus it does not have to be sterile.
Chlamydia can lie dormant in the body for many years causing a low grade infection without symptoms. It could potentially flare up to cause a symptomatic infection, especially if there is an alteration in the persons immune system, such as a severe cold or flu, cancer or some other severe illness.
This may generate some more informed and open minded debate, it comes from MedicineNet.com. Also bear in mind these organisms are mutating with time, becoming more resistant. Not all is known about them.
MD
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selda
16 yrs ago
your husband's refusal to take the antibiotics prescribed by your doctor is very strange.
If you have it and you had sex with your husband, then he is infected...it doesn't matter who got it first. He should think about your health and his, instead of refusing to accept reality.
Chlamydia can be passed back and forth, unless both partners take a course of antibiotics.
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zalca
16 yrs ago
here's another possibility. he slept with someone, he got it, he took antibiotics for it and it's now gone. he would then not fear being tested for it. but he'd have to be a serious lowlife to get it and not tell you. (and ultimately infect you with it)
i'm sorry to put such a horrible scenario forward but it's something to consider.
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F100
16 yrs ago
have to agree with satyricon's comments.
there is a much higher probability that your husband had affair and caught an STD.
the chances of the test results were wrong/switched is possible, however the chances are slim.
if you are still not sure that you were correctly diagnosed go to another clinic and redo the test.
you'll probably feel better about a second opinion.
best of luck to you and your family.
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so what I am to do? Divorce him immediately?
He got his test done today, waiting for the results.
I am getting retest, but I already took the medication, the re-test will likely come back negative this time. I will never know whether the first test was accurate or not.
So what do do if my husband's test comes back negative?
I know he NEVER took any antibiotics, up to last week, he's never even heard of what's chlamydia.
I am not ready to quit my marriage over this test result, but I can't pretend it didn't happen.
What to do ?
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selda
16 yrs ago
cahnel,
don't jump to conclusions. Even if the test is positive, i wouldn't consider divorce. First of all, he might have been infected for many years,
so, even if he was once unfaithful, from what you say, he is not seeing somebody else. You don't divorce your husband because maybe on his stag night, or before you got married, he had a one night stand. Cheer up!
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point is he's supposed to be as "safe" as I am. before marriage or after marriage. He swears it but I guess it's hard to believe. I believe I know the status of my marriage and what goes on in our home more than anyone else, I just needed to know what the chances are of a misdiagnosis, and false positive.
According to my doctor, she says it is possible for false positive, but very low chance, but still not 100% guarantee.
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point is he's supposed to be as "safe" as I am. before marriage or after marriage. He swears it but I guess it's hard to believe. I believe I know the status of my marriage and what goes on in our home more than anyone else, I just needed to know what the chances are of a misdiagnosis, and false positive.
According to my doctor, she says it is possible for false positive, but very low chance, but still not 100% guarantee.
I don't want to jump to any conclusion as my husband has NEVER given me any reason to doubt or suspect him. Will take some time to work this out....
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note that he could come out positive, if u've been 'at it' since or before u tested positive.
Getting a positive result now is not going to prove anything to anybody.
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F100
16 yrs ago
dear chanel2007,
people may give you advice BUT ONLY you will know what is best for you.
remember, you don't have to solve your problems right away.
first of all, get a second opinion.
possible - slim chance - the test results were a false positive the first time.
if your husband test results shows up as "negative"....how did YOU get it?
he must be wondering the same about you, if he is really innocent. (ie you had an affair)
as for your marriage situation....
I am a firm believer of giving it all and having NO regrets.
I assume that you didn't enter into the marriage lightly....and wouldn't leave the marriage lightly.
Yes, you might have problems with your marriage...
BUT really, who doesn't in some shape or form.
I've never met a married couple who hasn't had any problems at ALL in their marriage.
It appears that you and your husband have had a very good relationship for years until this BIG surprise.
Anyways, wait for the test results to come back.
Good luck and try to be patient.
Remember....you have time....Don't rush such an important decision (ie...divorce and leaving him).
If he is innocent....the poor guy must be going through what you are going through.
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F100, thank you very much for your logical, and supporting reply.
Hopefully, I will get some answers tomorrow, and hope to take some steps forward.....it's been a very LONG week for both of us. But we both know we love each other, trust each other, so.... will see what tomorrow holds.
Thank you again. This post and replies have helped me through some thinking and helped me certainly to get it out because I haven't told any of my friends or family members, don't want them to jump to the "typical" conclusion about my husband, until I get some definite info and answers.
Positive test would mean it wasn't a false positive for me.
The big question between us is still whether it was indeed "chalmydia". If he 's negative, then I can consider there was a slim chance it was a false positive.
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F100
16 yrs ago
Dear Chanel2007,
My advice for whatever it is worth....
Don't tell any family members or friends until YOU have thought about it for quite a while
and figure out what you want to do.
IF you need to talk to someone....get help from a professional counselor.
The problem with telling friends/relatives is that they might start criticizing your decisions about moving to Asia, complaining about your husband and men going crazy in Asia.
There's a good chance that their advice/opinions will bring you more trouble and grief.
You definitely don't need that....especially at this point in time.
I think you have made a very wise decision with respect to NOT telling family members or friends at this point in time.
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I don't even see why you should talk about that to your friends and family, now or after, you would only get more troubles with them giving their thoughts about your marriage and sexual life etc.... and you might not get the support you really need. Your life is YOUR life, and they have nothing to do in some part of it.
Even if your husband test comes back positive, he might got it from you. You'll never know. So just get rid of it (the chlamydia, not your husband ;)), and go on with your life and your love !
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dadda,
surely she didn't say that?!
or
were you just being funny?
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ok, my husband's tests all came back today. Doctor said he's squeaky clean, NEGATIVE for all the tests he did, including Chlamydia. He was physically examined, and no sign or evidence at all. So, now the question is how did I get it ? I am sure he did not treat himself for Chlamydia.
I had a retest done, doctor said even after my meds, if I test within few days, may still have trace , but the test came back negative second time.
My husband says, he wanted to prove it to me, and he did. The doctor even said to him that he doesn't really need to pay for all the tests and all the efforts, all he had to do was take the meds as told, (because he has no symptoms at all) but he refused, he says for the sake of our marriage, and my trust, he must take the test.
He told me today, he never doubted me being unfaithful, even now, so why did I ever doubt him? I told him, because medical evidence and stats tells me otherwise. Now that his tests are back negative, the more I believe my first test was wrong.
thanks to all who gave me advice, and shared their experience. My husband and I will be fine. This terrible ordeal actually brought the two of us closer than before, it was a huge reminder how much we love each other, and how much we love our family. Thank you again !
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huggy, thank you SO much for your kindness. Turns out there are 15 or more "conditions" that COULD result in False positives in the first step test (plate type).... Lab tests are more accurate.
So, never assume the tests are 100% accurate, it does pay to have second, or third opinions... especially in serious or life threatening conditions.....
Hope you and your family have a happy holiday season and a very happy 2009 !
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Chlamydial Dangers:It is important to get tested if a possible infection is suspected so that proper treatment could be administered.
http://herpespicture.net/results/chlamydia
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