abandonment

My husband / ex has ignoring Supreme court Order for Child maintenance past 3 years plus has arrest warrant from Singapore. He is an American 46 years old, is working at a bank in HK. Living in Luxury Apt and Driving Luxury Car. Having parties at home with his girlfriend. His children are ONLY 5 and 7. I am thinking what to do about him.

Well, I am supporting 2 children for past 3 years by myself. He was a bread winner always. When the court did not work out for his favor he ran off to Texas where we never been to.( we r from NYC ). State of Texas favors man to get divorce. He went there just to get divorced. After that he moved to hongkong and back to banking. I had spent so much money already on lawyers fee and he has been abounding us for this long. Easy to get lawyers feedback but cost 800 sgd an hour. He thinks he can pick and choose on whichever countries law favors him. Not easy for me and my two girls.

I am seeking to get advice. Do u think is east to get lawyers advice as in when. Rent, School fees, Doctors fee. Every months I have something. Is it something wrong to ask seek or advice on here? I am not here to shame or name. I am in publishing, I can do that anytime if I wanted. But I just do not know what to do. lawyers yes, after spending so much I like to get advice maybe in HK if anyone has knowledge? Since I do not live in HK.

I am with Cara on this one. Those two girls need you and you need to get on with it. The resentment you have towards him and the energy you put into chasing down his $$$$ will take away from what the girls really deserve and that is a happy plugged in mum. You obviously can work and support your two girls. Forget him, he's clearly a scumbag (from your telling), forge ahead and don't look back. They have already lost one parent, don't force them to live with an embittered one.

I have been thoug an identical situation with one of my best friends. After she went through a phase of mourning the life she SHOULD have had, the big house, nice car, grand holidays, private school for her daughter, she took stock and let that dream/fantasy go. Now she's about to move into her own small 3 bedroom apartment with her sister next door and mum around the corner, and she is loving her life and her child.

Let it go. Don't track him around the world, look at what car he drives, how many girlfriends he has, or what party he attends. Be glad you are rid of him and that he has given you two blessings. Live you life and forget about him.

And don't keep paying lawyers fees. Your just padding their nice homes, use the money to spoil you girls